Irritated!!
For months I have been sending her links to 3-bedroom houses available to rent, lately my husband has been doing that same. He is also really wanting her to move out. You would think she would be wanting to move out too, considering that she hasn’t seen her 4 kids since she moved down here at the end of September 2022.
The houses I was sending her were just not possible…
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(I still don’t understand how she plans to live with her mother and 3 sons and daughter in a 3-bedroom house, well she kinda has been doing that now, but in a flat)
The longer she is staying with us, the more I think that she just doesn’t want to ever leave. I mean the last time we talked about this she was going to be out by the end of January 2023. January is ending in 6 days and there is not sound of her moving out.
Due to having to look for place with reasonable requests and affordable rentals; we are having to look out further away from where I live and she works, which just so happens to be on the same street, and she is just not liking those houses.
The other day she joked how when the youngest sibling moves down, he is going to have to have everything sorted out before, as Cape Town is no joke. Like didn’t she know this before. Cape Town is no place where you can come down and just and hope for the best; unless of course you have loads of capital to keep you afloat.
Oh…I just hope something comes along an I can have my space back!!
I don’t know the full story on this, but she needs to find a place to go and respect the dealine in place. You have helped her and she should have been able to save some money by living under your roof. I hope she finds something by the deadline and moves along. Be loving but firm!
Thanks. As far as I know she has been sending money up to her mother to pay for rent and food for her 4 kids and mother.
Basically, she took some leave days from her job, because boss wasn’t paying his vendors and was always high on some drugs and the end was looming. On a Wednesday in September last year, I got a message that she was coming down that weekend to look for a job. She came down, stayed for 3 weeks and found a job. She went back home to pack up and officially resign. She came down the last weekend of September and started a job on the 1st Monday for October. She has been living with me since, not paying for anything, and together we have been looking for a place for her to stay and then she will obviously arrange for her mother and kids to move down. The kids are not enrolled into school in CT and I don’t know what school they are going to back in Durban. This is all one huge mess.
I know you didn’t ask for the all story but felt like I needed to share it and remember just how fucked up this all is.
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I feel your frustration! My sister stayed with me through the holidays and now at our parents home. She also refuses every home we find for her to look at…..too expensive, too small, to far away, cant have pets….I had to ask her to leave MY home and that’s why she is at moms and now her welcome is very thin there so shes gonna have to start making some exceptions and find a place!
Dont budge on your deadline AND don’t make her stay so comfortable and easy for her or she will truly not want to go! I don’t mean be rude but I learned not to make life like a vacation and your guests will be ready to get out quicker! Good luck!
I was brought up in a comfy home and so that is what I have wanted to continue creating in my life, and so it is hard being tough on her. I have tried but have falling back to my friendly and warm personality. I don’t know how I will enforce the deadline on her, particularly knowing she has no where else to go.
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It definitely doesn’t sound like she even wants to leave. How frustrating!!
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