Parental Advisory: Repricussions

(Continued from previous Entry, Parental Advisory: Responsibility)

Don’t make your kids stay home for a night, to be witht he family, and then jsut yell at them, or make them clean while you watch TV or play solitare. If you do, go hang yourself. Do your children a favor, killyourselves early so they don’t have to suffer through all of YOUR laziness and lack of ability to be a parent.

Jesus people, it’s not difficult. Look at other parents. look at the kids point of view. God forbid, you weren’t treated as well when you were a kid! But guess what, times change. people change. You weren’s treated as bad as your parents were either.

My mom had the typical shithole life, but she’s fine, she raised me well. I wasn’t forced to goto church, I was able to believe what I want, to be my own person, and they would help when I needed it and when I asked. Lets examine why this is good.

First, no forcing to do things, except chores, and curfews until I was 16.
This is good because I was able to express what I wanted to do. I wanted to learn web design. I wanted to watch tv, I wanted to read. Encourage that. Not discourage. Chores, they suck, but you eventully will learn the positive effects. Nobody likes em. never will. but at least they’ll know how to do them, and curfew, parents lose the fucking curfew. Tell the kids that if they stay up late and don’t get enough sleep for school, it’s their problem, they aren’t staying home. Make it clear. They’ll come home when they’re tired, or be irresponsible and failt their grade, and then they’ll learn for sure.

Don’t try to mask your kids failures because they too are human, like you. If you do mask their failures, then you become a failure. Don’t push blame on other people. It’s nobodies fault except theirs, and yours. Why yours? because depending on how you raise them, it’s your fault. IF they do drugs, but you never told them not to, who are they to learn from? nobody. so they will. Don’t learnt he important shit like drugs and sex to the public schools. otherwise it’s all your fault still. if you can’t take the initiative, you don’t deserve the respect as a parent.

Second, What I needed and when I asked. This will show that you are there to help support your child whenever he/she needs it, reguardless. If you won’t do this, don’t be a parent. IT’s your duty to help your child survive, not to make them into a miniature you. Let them ask, it will help them overcome the childish problems of being afraid to admit defeat and regroup and try again. one of the most important lessons in life, and its better to learn while they’re at home, then when they’re trying to make it on their own. But when they do ask for help, do your best to do so, without hurting yourself in the process.

For the love of god, don’t ever kick your children out. if it gets to the point where you feel the need to do that, you’ve probably already failed. “But my child jsut own’t listen” well, you’re unwise and tried to show her the rights and wrongs far too late. start early, the kids will be fine.

Don’t ever comment on hows kids look, how they need to look better, wear makeup, lose weight. You’ll destroy them. Support them if they are going to diet, but don’t make them. Just be responsible and make sure they get enough time to go play, and eat right. Don’t feed them 4 twinkies, a can of coke and half a sandwich for lunch. give them a whole sandwich, a fruit cup, and a juice bag. HOLY SHIT, THEY’RE EATING HEALTHY, AND excersizing?!?! damn.

It’s common sense. Simple common sense.

I know many parents believe they are doing the best for themselves, or the best they can, but this isn’t about you. it’s about your kids. To focused on your job? then why did you have kids. Be reponsible, plan 20 years into the future when you’re having children.

Don’t get me wrong. I know things happen. life throws unexpected problems. A significant other may die, or your spouse may leave. You may be forced to raising 3 kids on your own.

I have friends like that, and I know they try. but it’s a lot, and it wasn’t planned. You can only do the best you can. But I’ll tell you what, her 3 kids are some of the best raised I’ve seen. The oldest is responsible. MAybe a bit naive in some areas, but smart enough to realize a problem before it happens, or at least learn from the first mistake. The kids are normal kids. play with friends, eat alright. maybe a bit spoiled at times, and restricted too much, but they’re still raising fine.

But please, just don’t be stupid, 15 year olds get pregnant far too often. Luckily, I’m a ProChoice person, as long as you have a good reason. If you’re just a whore and get pregnant from having sex caus you wanted to know what it felt like, it’s your own damn fault. you’re life should be over, but take responsibility and raise the kid. get an aborition jsut so you can have sex more? off yourself now, do us a favor. But there are those that didn’t mean for it to happen, that tried to use protection. Well, I’ll let that slide once. Sex is a natural thing, but only once. first time shame on you. second time shame on me. And rape victims, you are free to go. do what you like, you deserve only respect and support from everyone.

And also Parents. When your kid turns 18, be nice. let them do what they want. they’re legal adults, time to treat them like one, and time to let them fly away. wether you like it or not. They will be forever grateful. Will help you when you need it, will visit, and want to call home because you were such a good parent. Let them be free. That’s all we want.

Now there are exceptions. don’t get me wrong. I know this. many kids are raised well even though parents restrict things, or limit, or force them to do things. But jsut think about it. If your kid isn’t happy, make sure its not your doing. figure it out, and help them. But help yourself too. if you’re having problems, talk to friends with good kids, take constructive critisism.

Just be good people. Live loose, and supportive and things will be ok. You’ll raise the kids fine,a nd you as parents will be content.

And us kids? that’s all we ever wanted, is for you to be ok.

As always,
         James

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QUOTE OF THE MOMENT: (contd as well…) ….It wasn’t me sure the boy was my son, but I didn’t teach him to pull the trigger of the gun. it’s those killers on the TV screen, you can’t blame me its those energies he see’s. -Jack Johnson