09/06/2009
Hello everyone,
Happy Labor Day weekend! It’s funny how even though I no longer work, I still enjoy 3 day weekends. Maybe it’s because every seems to be in such a relaxed mood.
We had our little cook-out yesterday although it turned out to be a cook-in LOL. We are not allowed to use a grill unless you live on the ground floor. I kinda sorta already knew this but it was confirmed last week with a letter from the condo association. We have grilled out about a dozen times since we’ve been here. When we moved in there was already a nice little grill on the balcony so we used that. And yesterday I sort of had the attitude of "screw it – we’re being kicked out" but I just couldn’t go through with it. So anyway, my friend Bonnie, God bless her, cooked up a whole mess of fried chicken and made potato salad. We also had hot dogs, cooked on the electric griddle, veggies and dip, chips, cookies, a big beautiful salad Aimee made, and drinks. Everyone had a great time!
A funny story – One of the kids there was a little boy named Curtis. He is Bonnie’s great-nephew, 2 years old. At one point I had come back in my room for something and he wandered in, whiny and tired. So he comes into my room and I put my arms out to him. He crawled up in my lap and put his head down on my chest. I started patting his back and singing him a lullaby. Well Miss Makayla apparently heard me singing a song I normally sing to her, and came to investigate. I wish I could have taken a pic of the look on her face! It was like she couldn’t believe her eyes. Someone else, on HER Nanny’s lap being sung to and patted. She walks over toward me and puts her head down and won’t look at me. Fortunately, about that time Curtis was ready to get down. So I pulled her up on my lap and told her that she would always be my baby and I would always love her the best. She said I was HER Nanny and not Curtis’! It was so cute.
This led me to thinking about something I’ve always wondered. Being the parent of an only child, I’ve never had the experience of loving a second one. It seems almost impossible to me that I could love another child as much as Aimee or another grandchild as much as Makayla. I mean I know logically I could, but it just seems so strange to me. So I’ll ask you parents of more than one child – do you really love them all equally? Is your love for the second one different than the first? Do you always hold a special (secret) place in your heart for your firstborn? Well I will never find out about a second child but I do imagine Aimee will have another one day. I guess I’ll know then. 
I’m not sure if it’s my faith or if I just have my head in the sand, but I am strangely unconcerned about my future housing issues. I think back to 5 years ago, when I got section 8 approval and housing for not just me and Aimee, but also for my brother-in-law. I also found us both a place to live, packed up and got rid of a ton of stuff from the apartment we had all lived in (and it WAS a ton – my sister collected so many things) and arranged for us all to be moved. Anyone who has ever dealt with section 8 housing knows what an accomplishment that was! So I’m thinking comparatively speaking, this should be fairly easy. Okay, not easy, but definitely doable. I don’t know where we are going, where we will get the money to move, or how we will move, but I just know it will all work out.
Makayla is sitting here in my room with me, watching TV. Every time she sees a commercial on with something she wants, she always asks if I will buy it for her. I say "yes, of course" and she is happy as can be and then forgets all about it. I dread the day when she starts to hold me to these promises LOL.
I know we’ve had some sadness and some tough things going on around here in our little OD community. I continue to pray for all of us. I hope that good times are ahead for all of my friends here. (((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))
Miss Makayla doesn’t want *anyone* strolling on HER turf…lol…I bet that was soo cute!!~I’m glad you was able to have your cook-out yesterday…I will probally not do ‘anything’ since i am under the weather and my mom’s shoulder is hurt[thank you for the prayers]!!~ I continue to pray you will find the place you want!! Have a nice day [hugs]
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*hugs*
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I have 4 and love them all the same. Each one holds a special spot that the others cannot occupy. I tell my oldest you are my fav oldest child, my youngest daughter you are my fav youngest daughter and so on. It’s kinda funny because they always say I’m your ONLY blah blah blah, lol. We laugh but I hope and I do think they get the idea that each one is special in their way. My dad had 37 grandkids when he passed in 2000. You couldn’t tell any of them that they were not special to him.
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I have 3 daughters. Each one is a a special blessing in her own way! Yes, Mamas, Grammas, etc, have been given SO much love from God, that it’s NOT even an issue to love #2, 3, etc. I agree with Zeeva, each child with his or her own personality, worms his/her/ way into your heart, even before birth!! My oldest daughter was 4 when we had #2. She already had a very distinct personality and ALL of mylove, BUT, when #2 came, I had even MORE love to share, & there were 2 to love with ALL of my love!! :)) #2, by the same token, had HER own distinct personality, shy, etc, loved being dirty. #1 was “Miss Priss,” wanting to change if one drop of water got on her clothes, and ONLY wanted to wear dresses.Then, when #1 was 14, and #2 was 10, we had #3!!! This is my Shanny. SHE’s a whole trip in herself!!! BUT, again, I had even MORE love to give her and I then loved all 3 with ALL of my love!!!! I am thinking this is a good entry here. Perhaps later, or tomorrow! :*)) ****I TOTALLY understand what you mean about NOT worrying about the move; where, when, how, etc? God knows all about it, He has it all under control. All our prayers & faith are giving you peace that passes understanding!BIGHUGZ
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2) I meant to say, “All of our prayers, including your own & our faith, including yours; is giving you this peace. I ran out of characters, sorry. 🙂 BigHugz.
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I remember being told b y a complex I lived in a while ago that I couldnt have grill on my porch because it was illegal to bring a grill through an apt to the porch but if I could have got it up another way, I could grill. It had nothing to do with the actual grilling on the second floor. But I would have done it anyway… just because. That was so cute about Makayla and Curtis. But shes right, you are hers. And as a parent of three and a nana of one, I can honestly say that yes you love them all the same but different. Not different as in more, just differently. They are after all… different. But they all have an equal part of my heart even if I am mad or confused about them. My thoughts go out to you in finding a new home and I am certain you will find a wonderful one. {{hugs}}
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you do love them all the “same amount”, but not necessarily “the same”. Just as each child is unique, the love for each child is kinda unique, too. no more, no less, b/c your heart is just so full for each one and it’s like it’s all for each of them, even tho there’s more than 1. You have a full heart of love to give each one, rather than dividing it up. (if that makes sense)
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I thought I could never love another child as much as I loved Michael. But I was wrong. He is special because he is my first. I got to be him alone for almost three years before Heather was born. I love them all their uniqueness. My 9 grandchildren are tough to please. They all want on my lap. When I’m around more than two. I need a bigger lap. Biggest hugs,
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I only had 1 child myself. I love him to bits… But then I received a gift of two wonderful stepsons Its true you can love them just as much. I now have two grandchildren and 2 stepgrandchildren. And I have to say I love them all equally.
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hannah does the same thing on tv commercials……”i want that!” i tell her sure, no problem. lol
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I have two children and believe me, your heart grows to love both the same. I love both of my children and their individual personalities and qualities. I tell Mark he’s my favorite son and I tell Angela she’s my favorite daughter. LOL There was such a difference made between my sisters and brother that I swore that I would never do that to my own children and I don’t think that my husband andI ever have. I tend to think that it’s your faith seeing you through this housing crisis. You are still in my prayers and I’m sure lots of other people’s too! (((Hugs)))
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please pray
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i think as parents it is possible to love our children equally, even though they are uniquely different and have their own strengths/weaknesses. i have three and can’t say my love is any more/less for one than another.
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