08/28/2011

Hello!

This is my facebook status today: 

I’m feeling very lucky and very blessed today! I mean how often do you get to say you survived both an earthquake and a hurricane all in the same week?? I hope all my friends and family are doing okay.

And it’s so true, we were very lucky and blessed.  We didn’t even lose power except for a few short moments.  A lot of others were not so lucky.  I believe the death toll was 15 including 2 here in VA.   Today it is absolutely gorgeous outside.  As the saying goes, "What a Difference a Day Makes".

I got quite a few notes on my last entry and I appreciate all the comments sympathizing with me about the earthquake. 

There is one thing that is bothering me and I have to get it off my chest.  I realize the majority of that entry was about the earthquake.  I also realized I ended the entry with that old saying about not saying anything if you have nothing nice to say.

But I was hurt that some people didn’t even mention the fact that I’m becoming a grandmother again.  I’m not asking for approval but a simple congratuations, just because you are my friend, would certainly seem to be in order.  I’m hoping it was just an oversight and not some kind of silent disapproval because if it’s the latter, I really don’t feel we can continue to be friends.

One diarist made a few comments which prompted me to respond to her with my own notes.  Let me just say that her notes were not mean, just honest, and I appreciated that.  She appreciated the fact that I had no problem with her honesty and also that I cleared up a few things she wasn’t aware of.  So in case anyone else is unaware of those same things (and I take responsibility for that), let me state them for everyone.

This pregnancy was not planned and birth control was used.  I can’t swear to that since I wasn’t there, but I have no reason to believe otherwise.  No birth control is 100% effective.

This baby will be welcomed and raised with lots and lots of love. 

Yes, money is tight.  Money is always tight.  But my daughter has a great job and makes good money.  This baby will not lack for any necessities and we, as a family, will be the ones financially responsible for those needs.  We will not be depending on the government to provide. 

Although Dustin does not work a regular job, he does occasionally have side jobs.  More importantly, he is an excellent father.  He does 90% of the housekeeping, does all our laundry, takes out the trash and carries in the groceries. 

Both Bonnie and I, as the grandmothers, will gladly continue to help out in any way we can.  As I told my friend, it really does take a village to raise a child.  My mother helped me and I will help Aimee.

While it’s true this is her third child without the benefit of marriage, I respect her choice and even agree with some of her reasoning. 

So, to sum it up, I have no problem with your opinions differing from mine.  I do have a problem with judgement when it comes to my family.  And like I said, if you can’t even congratulate me, and be happy for me because I’m happy, then why are you my friend?

Okay, now I feel better. 

I hope my friends are all safe and sound and I wish you all a good week, hopefully a peaceful one, weatherwise and otherwise.  ((((hugs))))