Bothered/ need opinion

So lately I am totally bothered by the fact that most of the time when I tell people I am pregnant again I get the automatic “cograts!” followed very closely with “wow you ARE going to have your hands full” as they eye Avery. I feel like saying” I realize that but I don’t believe in having an abortion for an accidental pregnancy” or “thanks, I’m already nervous about it and you are just helping that along nicely.” but of course I don’t say this and I get really pissed off about it. One person told me “wow you are pretty far along and not really showing yet.” I wanted to say “yeah takes a minute for a fat chich to show a lot” but instead I said “I am if my clothes aren’t so big, I had to get new clothes because nothing fit.” I really didn’t think that just hitting 4 months was far along really. Maybe when your older it far along. Who knows? So what I need help with is for quite some time I have been talking with my mom about moving in with her because she is going to get laidoff eventually and my dad is kiNda far along with his cancer even though you wouldn’t know it to look at him. Well, the thing is I can’t take Terry with me and he doesn’t want to move in there anyways. But really, the more I think about it right now I don’t want to. It will definately change the amount of time Terry and Avery have together and that isn’t fair for either one of them. He is a great father and I know he will come around with this baby too. He is a huge help and I love having him around. Plus, being able to make out when ever is a bonus and the random sexy time I love too. And neither of those will happen anymore. Plus I know that my relationship with Avery will change too because it is so easy to say “can you watch him while I go do ——-.” so I don’t want that. I just don’t know how to tell my mom. Any ideas would be helpful. There was more I wanted to put about this but I have to go back in to work.