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Dear Diary,

   It’s been a while since I have written an entry; just haven’t felt like it.

A lot has happened and life is marching on.  School is winding down and the year is coming to a close.  I will be working all summer with a two week break in August.  I need the money just like everyone, but it is good to work and stay active.

My son was married two weeks ago in Vermont.  It was a nice wedding but unfortunately his bride does not like his mother.  I have no idea why other then I am not wealthy and want to see my son and have a relationship with them.  The "stand"offish started when my son (two years ago on mother’s day) created a beautiful picnic lunch at Washington’s crossing state park for me.  The food was outstanding and the picnic was so sweet.  We went to the tower, ate lunch, went to a flower show then he wanted to walk around New Hope but his then girlfriend wanted to go home.  She kind of gripped the whole time but I just thought she was tired.  After that day I rarely heard from him and I rarely see them.  I had no input in the wedding and I didn’t know anything about it other then I was to show up.  My mother and I drove up to Vermont and had a wonderful time.  The wedding was nice but I didn’t get to spend any time with my son or his wife other then me hugging his wife and added a "welcome new daughter" just to get the hand and said," No, DAUGHTER in law."  So I know where I stand and have decided that if they want to see me they know where I live. 

I was pretty much crushed….but it is what it is.

My mom was so wonderful and so supportive at 82.  She is a wonderful person.  We both got our hair, nails and makeup done the wedding day and it was so much fun to have that done together.  She looked beautiful too!

The drive home was hard and I cried a few times, but I am doing better now.  I just pray for them both and hope they realize that family is family and it is so important to have one. 

The following weekend I drove to Bath NY to the Peaceweavers for the Memorial Day weekend.  I had a very good time helping with the garden and having some free time.  The kids there are so sweet.

One of the 4 year olds was walking with me and another 5 yr. old to help put my sleeping bag in my tent when she put her hand on her hip and said, " Gee, I haven’t talked to you in like 10 years."  LOL

I cracked up….so sweet.

We had a square dance and games.  I drove home Monday, Memorial Day to the tune of tons of traffic jams….so much fun lol AND I got a ticket for not having my vehicle inspected.  He let me go with half the fee so I was pretty grateful for that and so now my truck is in the shop today getting inspected and fixted up…kind of an overhaul.  There is an exhaust leak somewhere and various other things to get fixed.  I get such great gas mileage that I don’t want to give it up nor do I want another car payment right now.

My good friend, Cookiepuss’s daughter had her first child and it is cookiepuss’s first grand baby.  I am very happy for them and I know this child will grow up loved and with a lot of family surrounding him.  He is adorable and hopefully I will get to see him soon.

Other then that I have been working and walking after school trying to keep fit because I still have the dream of finishing the trail before I kick the bucket. 

I have been doing sit ups and push ups with some small weight routines.  I could lose 10lbs but I look and feel ok so I don’t worry about it.

Peace,

LYB

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May 31, 2008

I’m so sorry your new dil wants that kind of relationship with you and worse yet, is keeping your son away.

May 31, 2008

how awful! your new dil sounds very jealous. so sorry this will keep your son away from you. maybe in time she’ll grow up and mature and you’ll be able to have a relationship with both of them. take care,

May 31, 2008

Yes, I do agree with you. It is good to work and stay active. Work gives a meaning to life, but we must not also forget that a vacation is important to restore our batteries and energize them. Thanks for coming back to write such a touching entry! Wishing you loads of happiness.

I just wrote a note about head ripping and it didn’t save. I guess it was a bad charma comment or a comment that my daughter would tell me off about! I’ve read your diary for some time. I would think your new daughter in law needs to grow up! I’m glad that you wrote, I was wondering about you.

My ex-DIL was the same way–wanted nothing to do with us — a mama’s girl. All you can do is continue to be nice and friendly…sending birthday cards, (god forbid you should ever forget HERS!), inviting them for events, etc. One of these days he will miss you and hopefully “get a pair” and stand up to her.

Boy howdy do I know about the wedding woes.. my daughter’s wedding went pretty much like yours and she has not spoken a word to me in over a year.. like you I said it is what it is and just live my life the best I can.. I get so much love and support from others my cup is full.. Glad you are ok over it too.. BIGGEST HUGS

May 31, 2008

I’m so sorry about your DIL. When my son got married, I really thought my DIL and I would get really close and do things together. She likes me and I really love her, but she never has time to do anything with me. I really thought when my daughter died last August that we might get closer, but nope – we haven’t. I’m not sure that most DILs are jealous if their MILs have a good relationship with their son.

Sorry about the wedding and the DIL.