What a lovely weekend

I got invited to an adult toy party last night and I had said I was going, then I saw I knew only one person going. And she tends to not show up places, especially since she got pregnant again and is having a rough time 🙁 Then Phil got home late and I still hadn’t showered or eaten (it started at 6:30, WTF) so I totally wasn’t going to go. Then I decided to try a Calms Forte and take a shower and after I felt better so I said screw it and got dressed to go out.

Side note: I might have to try the Calms more often. I got it as a sleep aid when I was pregnant with Sam and couldn’t freaking sleep ever, but it can be used for anxiety too and it stopped the what should I do what if I don’t know anyone obsessive loop.

Anyway, I got there and there were actually 3 other people I knew and Andrea ended up showing up. Plus there was a lot of wine and, you know, sex toys. And a chocolate fountain! It was a fun night. I ordered more of the pheromone bath oil I love so much, I don’t know what happened to mine and the last few parties I went to they didn’t have it. I also got a basic back massager so I don’t have to deal with Phil’s killer hands of death and yet another vibrator. There’s a reason we have a (very underused) sex bag. I really should pull that out. In my defense they all have different functions, I like to try them all lol.

Oh and it’s a good thing it started at 6:30 because we left at midnight and the last girl was just placing her order. So I guess that was good planning!

When I got home I had a FB message from an acquaintance asking if we wanted to go over for dinner tonight. It was so random, but what a great time! There are 2 girls from playgroup we see on a fairly regular basis and this girl is friends with them, so I’ve seen her a lot at play dates and whatnot. It ended up being her and us, plus one of my friends and their neighbor from across the street – three 2 year olds, a 1 year old, and Sam. She had made rosemary chicken tenders, a ham, potato, and corn along with an amazing chocolate peppermint cake, I was impressed for it being a last minute thing! After dinner the guys sat in the play room drinking beer and watching the kids (and the game) while the girls sat at the kitchen table and chatted. Kind of funny the guys are the ones who ended up on kid duty, but it was really nice. As we were buckling Riley in her car seat to leave she asked to go back lol.

I especially appreciated tonight because I was thinking the other day about how my mom always had friends over for coffee and whatnot when we were growing up and how we loved her friends and I fear Riley won’t get that experience. I think I’m too hard on myself. We attend and host play dates, we go to BBQs and have friends over. It’s not all the time, but I know my mom wasn’t entertaining nearly as often as my kid mind probably thinks she was. I think it’s also good for Phil because not one of his friends are married, let alone have children, so he gets to hang out with other dads and see that what we go through as a couple with kids is normal.

Our house has been trashed since the holidays. I finally got the kitchen, dining area, and living room back in order the past week and we’ve started cleaning out Sam’s room. I labeled all the boxes of clothes I packed up end of the summer and moved them downstairs along with the baby gear we’re no longer using. It’s still pretty crowded in there, but the plan is to have my parents’ come down a weekend to help move the guest room furniture to the basement and make the guest room a play room. Then we can finally give Sam a room (which means a big girl bed for Riley, AH!) and hopefully everything will be less cluttered with the toys being stored elsewhere.

Time is going so fast. Sam climbed into the dishwasher today and up the 2 stairs out of my friend’s playroom tonight, so add that to the list of things he can do at just turned 9 months old. It may not even be that impressive for all I know, but as I’ve said before Riley did NOTHING physical until 10.5 months. We were going to wait until 4 for preschool but Riley has seemed kind of bored lately, so we’re looking into sending her 2 days in the fall. I can’t for real think about it without freaking out, so I’m keeping it an abstract concept in my mind for now. I made the mistake of asking her what she thought and at least twice every day she tells me she has to go to school and see her friends. Finally I told her we had to wait awhile because she can’t wear diapers to school and she immediately started refusing to wear diapers so we’re pseudo potty training? She peed once on it yesterday, had two pee accidents today (though the 2nd time she was running to the bathroom yelling I’M PEEING), but pooped on it. So now I’ve switched to telling her she has to be 3 and she’s only 2 (for school). Jeepers.

I’m basically chatting with Jeff’s g/f on Facebook right now, it’s unnerving. We’ve been at odds for….5 years? Phil is one of the people included in the FB conversation and a couple of times he has been like ummmmm you’re being really nice. I thought he was going to fall off the couch when I used a smiley face lol. I don’t know, I apparently don’t hate her through social media. Or, you know, the whole awkward social anxiety thing isn’t there because I’m not looking at her. And I guess because Jeff isn’t involved directly? I overstress about how to relate to him when she’s around because I feel like based on our history I have to not be as familiar or close with him in front of her. Even though I know there’s a lot to work on my brain is all Let’s have a BBQ and invite Cody and Naomi and Jeff and Jen! And maybe Jim and Ginny. Then I remember Facebook is not real life and it would probably be really awkward.

Man, it’s almost 1 AM and it’s my turn to get up with the kids tomorrow. We got home late tonight so I’m hoping maybe they’ll want to sleep in, but that’s not always how it goes in baby world. Tomorrow’s plan is church, taking down Christmas, ordering Riley a mattress for her bed, finishing painting the bed, and homemade pizza 🙂 I hope I still have a yeast packet left.

Oh last thing, new year’s! It was very low key. I made homemade chicken lomein, which was not good, but we had crab rangoon dip after the kids went to bed and that was delicious! We watched Ted while I made wine slushies and started New Year’s Eve, but had to take a break for the ball drop. Then Phil went to bed and I finished watching NYE and made a pizza at 2 AM because I drank too much and wanted to eat 😛 I worked the next day, but we had an egg and pancake breakfast and I made cream cheese stuffed everything bagel bites before going in and they were delicious. And I started my food logging again, so here’s to that whole weight loss thing *said every cliched woman in America*