On my soap box (note-bombed an OD stripper)

Haven’t written for a while, so let me share a long series of notes which I just left at the diary of a stripper who was merely reporting that she was dismayed when, during discussions with her beau, she told of a particular kind of birth control seemingly committing them to monogamy, only to have him respond:  "lets just use condoms then".

That all caused me to ponder the way society stereotypes strippers along the lines of     "well, we can’t really imagine ourselves able to win the heart of someone so seemingly desired by so many others, so maybe the most realistic thing to hope for is to get what we can from them while they’re offering".

(whether that be sex, a lap dance, or even pole-dancing lessons for other women)

So to her I wrote the following series of notes:

Gosh, I wonder if the seeming stigma of a stripper has anything to do with how such women are perceived by men in many directions.

(regarding his reaction to the idea that neither side could sleep around )

It must be soooooooooo challenging to evolve emotionally and internally while your sexuality is beckoned during so many hours of the week.  In some odd-seeming way it could be like masturbating for hours and hours on end in that it takes your focus and ability away from being able to do anything else.

And nobody ever thinks about strippers seeming to be doing a survey of many during each shift.

I only tend to think about it during the window of my arousal (arousal in various ways).

Yet the world must look so different when, say, at 6:15 one guy comes in and buys dances, for, eh, 20-45 minutes… and he (is satisfied)… and then departs… only to have the next person get your attention at 7:10… and go through the same ritual… and so it goes all night – until 2:00am… it’s like you’re always close to an aroused (older?) male.  There is no redeeming value to it either… for IF, say, he is an auto mechanic… well you could somewhere learn about cars from this guy… if another is a computer whiz, you could somewhere learn about computers from HIM.  Instead you get them constantly either actively or at least mentally stroking themselves and doing little else – for hours.

Not only that, but most strippers don’t have their feet planted solidly enough to observe all that AND explain it to the world.  Instead the stereotype is young and attractive women drinking/drugging themselves into near-oblivion, and then going through the motions while relying on their moneymakers to see them through as has always been the case.

(Man, I’m getting deeeeeeep here)

So, what I have kinda sorta wanted to express in my diary is that I’m somebody who simply doesn’t have a moneymaker, and that I have to adjust and move on without such a drawing card to make others want to be around me.  I’m OK with it, and reasonably adjusted in most ways, but there are certain corners of society in which I simply cannot compensate and offset those shortcomings.

NOT that there aren’t plenty of old, short, fat and bald guys out there making their way and doing much better than I am, but society won’t make allowances for some members simply not having some of the more sought-after traits which ‘most’ others take for granted.  (What if we had a seeming "Americans with Disabilities Act" for the socially inept??)

Now I mean it’s OK if most decide that, say, John F. Kennedy Junior didn’t and shouldn’t have spent his nights out walking the streets @ 1:00am looking for a working girl. I get that, and I understand society condemning him were he to have done such a thing. (even though that isn’t fair/equal either)

Society just doesn’t have a clear understanding/acceptance of what are a huuuuuuuuuuuge number of lesser-thans who are just as wanting of human connection, intimacy, and touch as are all others.  It seems rather silly to try to stop the demand for sex work, when it would be a far more fruitful endeavor to work on stopping the supply in the way of severely reducing child abuses done onto anyone.

That sort of effort would have a healthy effect on many of the vast number of people who (would/might otherwise enter sex work in the future), and it would likely reduce the demand for sex workers, beginning by having a positive impact on the most violent and threatening (future) consumers of sex work.

Even non-sex workers who are women, and who are often put-off of dating men altogether by things which happened to them during their formative years, and typically at the hands of evil men, would see their numbers reduced a great deal.

Perhaps more women in the dating mainstream, and a healthier society all around, just might alleviate what is today a polarized society where far too many people want what somebody else has, for better or for worse.