A college coed’s “Duke University F*ck list”

This is the most exciting "sex news" I’ve read in a while. It seems a now-graduated Duke University female student wrote an "unofficial thesis" on her sexual conquests during much of her time at school there. She did a Power Point presentation and was very matter-of-fact without being especially vulgar. The young woman, Karen Owen, humbled herself in many ways and does not come across as a particularly vindictive individual. The 13 subjects on the list all appear to be one-time Duke University athletes

I love that she is getting movie and book offers and I hope that some of those will bear fruit for her in much the same way that Eliot Spitzer’s call girl, Ashley Dupre, has newfound success as the result of her unsavory liason with the former Governor.

Of course many are observing that had Karen F. Owen been a male, and her sexual conquests female, there would have been lots of pure outrage over the baker’s dozen sex partners whose names had once been published without their permission. But we as a society created the unparalleled-by-opposite-genders reaction to Karen F. Owen’s "Fuck List" for fostering a world in which a "norm" for women has long been established at a level which is probably far too conservative.

As the direct result of the steady societal sense of women in general and of female ideals we have created an environment wherein women who show more comfort with themselves than others expect them to show, are almost always revered by most. Indeed the "Duke University Fuck List" polarizes a lot of people but you can most often read some amount of jealousy or envy into lots of the far-in-excess unsavory references to Karen F. Owen.

Her words are a potential source of understanding for women in that Karen Owen very clearly illustrates her own sexual tastes and preferences and they are at times in considerable contrast with those of many others. Women do themselves great disservice by continuing to under-appreciate their own bodies and their own natural uniqueness while over-envying the various and random physical attributes of other women. Many other women will read the text of her "Fuck List" and identify as polar opposites in terms of various preferences, likes or dislikes. While doing so, hopefully it will become apparent to most, in this odd-seeming way, that other people just like various other experiences, and that there is nothing too amiss with one’s individual preferences. As you can’t be someone who both yearns for the "Alpha-Male" personality (like Karen Owen) and at the same time yearns for the opposite in a sex partner, it can be similarly concluded that men can’t practice a preference for large breasts and for small breasts at the same time. You’re all different, and unique… and all lovely people in your own way… so just figure out your uniqueness and stay in your spot on the field and find a way to be content until the guys who are looking for just your type  come around.

If the man who lives for your small breasts and dark hair comes around while you are out of position and researching implants somewhere then you’re going to miss out when he shows up.

Naturally Karen Owen’s presentation was far from perfect in that she named names without consent. Indeed she probably shouldn’t have trusted her three initial recipients to the extent which she did, but I still don’t hold it against Karen for the viral spread of her college sex journal. I love that she is getting the chance to take the notoriety and cash-in on it – IF she can stand the heightened attention on her sex life.

I really liked the professional-seeming style she used in presenting the finished "Thesis" while I also liked her matter-of-factness in reporting that various sexual conquests happened while she was too drunk to remember the details. As Karen humbled herself along the way, along with her less-guilty male sexual conquests, I see no ill will in her efforts.

Karen Owen is, at worst, an attractive woman whose physical appeal drew lots of attention to her and who journaled her university years in ways not altogether unlike some do at Open Diary. In her prose she documents the kind of social life that the likes of me can only imagine from afar.

Maybe you’ll suggest that Karen Owen isn’t very deep – well, she doesn’t have to be considering that she gets attention merely for waking up in the morning. People with her outer appeal needn’t hone too many skills necessary for maintaining that attention when, as you can tell, she already gets more attention than she can really handle.

As for me, I am grateful for the fact that a woman who boldly seemed to (we’ll say, given that she didn’t intend for her effort to go world-wide) show more comfort with herself than the world expects of a college coed, is likely to cash-in and help to pave her way to some sort of success in the near future.

I’ve seen one or two pictures of Karen Owen and while she appears to have a physical form from which I wouldn’t turn away, it still seems that I’ve been significantly more physically attracted to numerous prostitutes I’ve found in the mid-priced areas of our red light district. For example, I’d guess that my "favorite prostitute" (from the beginning of this diary) is still considerably more attractive (while approaching a milestone birthday nearly 10 years after I first met her) than is former Duke University student Karen Owen.

But Karen Owen is just someone who went away to school and let her hair down considerably in ways that lots and lots of women do everywhere. She was kind enough to describe her experiences in fairly tasteful and professional manner and I very much enjoyed the read. Maybe it will entertain you for a while as well?

– MSOJ