Summertime

“Married” and “Lesbian” are two words on my myspace dealiebob. I took out a space there because my sister has one, and so has my daughter. A second gift of Sunday was that when I checked my email, there was someone who wanted to be “friends” with me; the name was odd and very inner city. I clicked on the link, and it was my very own loca chica, my daughter! Well of course I instantly made her a friend. It meant a lot to me that she is okay with being publicly linked to her gay mom. It’s a definite sign of progress, as this was the child who was, until very recently, terrified of any of her friends ever finding out that she had such a parent. A Pride Month gift that I treasure more than I can really tell her. But … I think she knows. She’s wise, although she doesn’t like to leave too much evidence lying around, which is why she is likely to be repeating ninth grade this coming year.

Loose today
against the tight strung wire
of desire
when I can I’ll tell
of my angels’ prayers
surrender to a truth
whose time seems now to be

How long I struggled
won’t say how many tears
I’ve cried
to understand each message
now I’ll write to tell you
that I know
but no labels please

Then I’ll turn around and say
do you really want to catch me
I’m scared
are you
if we hold on tight
we can make it through
to the other side

~~~~~~~~~~

Sweet
in a manner beyond taste
beyond senses
generous soft strength
instant recognition

Meet me at a station
here or there
dreams shift
she can catch me
as I fall from another
gently loosened grip

Seize a day
with us in it
I’m compelled and quiet
hearts share visions
uniting in the fullness
of whole truth

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My daughters have been going to pride with me since they were young. This coming weekend is our parade. They have invited a ton of friends to hang at the parade with us (the group gets bigger each year) and we all have a competition to see who can collect the most freebie junk thrown from the floats. We all have a riot!

My point is that they’ve had a lot of friends confide in and come out to them because they have a gay parent. Maybe your daughter will start to have equally postive experiences 🙂

June 20, 2006

Seems Ophelia has turned a corner! Great gift indeed.

June 20, 2006

Lovely lovely whitters. Oh, how wonderful to be asked by your child to be a “friend”! No greater gift. Hmmm….methinks my Leonardo may have a Myspace. I wonder if I should open one too. Warm hugs to you,

June 20, 2006

That is great that your daughter is beginning to accept you for “You” I wish we had pride parardes here. : )

June 20, 2006

PS: Leonardo is taking two Summer School sessions this Summer to be able to squeeze himself into 10th grade this Fall. Geez.

June 20, 2006

You are just so good. I am happy for you

June 20, 2006

That reminds me — Pride Parade is this weekend . . . I used to live in Boystown and went to the parade every year. I miss it.

Very cool about your Daughter 🙂 Most lovely whitters! Hugs,

June 20, 2006

*smiles* that’s wonderful. I didn’t realize you were gay. hmm. Interesting. So are you married to a woman? I have been around gay people my whole life. My parents are both very open about stuff like that and when the Canadian military first allowed “Gay” soldiers, my dad ended up working with the first Canadian Openly Gay solider. *laughs* It’s sad that it wasn’t that long ago either….

June 20, 2006

… people’s views can be so archaic. But yeah Mike and his partner came over for supper all the time. and my friends would always ask me “What do you mean “mike and his partner”” and I’d say “you know, like his boyfriend.” *shrug* and my favorite babysitter in the whole wide world was gay too. I don’t think I’d ever be embarassed of my parents if they told me they were gay… It would …

June 20, 2006

…bizarre, because they’ve been married for so long, so there’d be an adjustment period, of course, but I would never disown them or be embarassed of them!

June 20, 2006

There’s nothing quite like ‘Being yourself’ C. I’m really pleased you can Be who you wish to be now and not what others expected you should be. Not living if you have to live a life a lie every day. Glad daughter is becoming more accepting. Just keep breathing Cathy, things will be as they will be….Much love brave one. Bren.

June 20, 2006

P.S> I love the first whitter, says so much of the agonies you’ve been through…. reading depth between the lines.

June 20, 2006

well there lady you need to add me to friends on your myspace!

June 20, 2006

Hmmm…I didn’t know you have a space on myspace. I think it’s great that your daughter found yours and wants you in hers. (Besides, it’s good for parents to know what their children are doing at sites like that.) 🙂

June 20, 2006

Hooray for baby steps!