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September 9, 2006

A whole lot of thinking going on Edit

I’ll do some laundry. Kay and Nigel have had a lot of fun this weekend, and I’ve had fun watching them have fun. He hasn’t done a pencil stroke of homework yet, so I’m hoping our afternoon train ride back to the city will afford us an opportunity to see to at least a fair amount of that.
Folláin should be arriving in New York at about the time we are boarding our train.
I will see about a transfer for Ophelia tomorrow morning as she clearly is miserable about her school situation. Not the part where she is repeating ninth grade; no, it’s the school where she is. Every aspect of her behavior says she simply doesn’t want to be there. So we are going to see if it’s possible for her to be somewhere else. We are well aware that she brings herself wherever she goes; it’s now a matter of making that self willing to do what is needed to advance her education. It is entirely possible that she will need to go through at least one more semester, if not this whole year, at her present school. If so, somehow we need to get through to her that doing what is necessary to pass this grade is absolutely in her own best interest. If she gets at least some credits, next year she will be 16, and besides 10th grade being a time of possibilities in terms of overall school choice, if she prefers an alternative program (which seems to be the way her mind is traveling), she needs to go into it being at least 16 and having at least some high school credits achieved. I am going to be making an appointment in the near future with an adolescent-friendly gyn. I think hormone taming might really be helpful to her, and The Pill seems like a wise thing for my 15-going-on-35 woman child.
I’m glad I am on vacation this coming couple of weeks. Part of that time will be spent having some long and very necessary talks. Part of it will be spent seeing my old town through new eyes, which is one great gift of having a visitor from another place with whom to visit places in it.
Eman is being wonderful about a lot of things right now. Really wonderful. I need to make some significant changes in my behavior and choices. This vacation is shaping up to be a time of reflection and reality checks and restoration. I am grateful for all of that, and so much more.

*Edit* As I was sitting in Kay’s backyard a little while ago, I looked up into the sky and saw an eagle. An eagle in Connecticut. This is possibly not an unusual sight here. It is a remarkable sight for me. It’s a beautiful message from a dear friend, too. What a magnificent thing, an eagle in flight!

rambleigh

September 10, 2006

*random noter* teens are tough. I just heard about the vaccine for girls her age for HPV also. that might be something to look into. just a suggestion. good luck.

jasspirit

Feeling gratitude can help to get us through whatever is put in our path. (So does a reality check from time to time). Enjoy your vacation!

Velvet Underground

*hugs you* its tough being a mum isn’t it? much love and light

oh school can be so hard and for bodhi she brought herself into the changes we made for her but the changes still helped a lot. too bad i didn’t have my, your, yurt set up, what a great place that would be for vacationing reflection and starting anew.

Please know you are in my thoughts today, more than ever, since I’m aware of the difficult choices you’ll need to be making soon. And, especially, those tough talks you will be sharing with the ones you love – and want to avoid hurting. Lots of healing hugs sent your way, NS

Seems like you’re doing lots of good thinking and planning. I’ve full confidence you will see to the best actions, too. Great that the weekend was so fun for Nigel and Kay and you 🙂 Hopes for Nigel’s homework production and Ophelia to wise up and get on with what she needs to do. And hopes for your life developing as it is. Yes, we each come to places of change. I’m at one of those, too. Sometimes, one step or a few tiny steps makes it all fall in place. If you see those tiny steps .. well, step on them! 🙂 May your vacation be all you need and want. I expect it will be. Warm Hugs and Love,

Ms. Monday

Ohh, ninth grade. A generally icky time. Thinking of you all, especially for the next few weeks. 🙂

I wish as a teacher that we had smaller classes so that we could give those teens quality time. You imagine – 50 minute lesson, 30 kids. That means less than 1.5 minutes per child – that is if you were to speak to each one individually. Its so hard to see the ones who really don’t want to be there, but you have such a short amount of time to do something about it. Its great that you are listeningto her. I hope a change and considered hormones will really help.

dear_gertrudeperkins

Mangocitrus

We have “Virtual School” here in Airdrie. Where kids do thier schooling from home on the Computer. They are required to “log-in” to certain classes at certain times etc. I wish it was an option for me when I was a kid!

Oh, gosh! I hope things work out with and for Ophelia. I’ve heard much about the Pill as a hormone tamer. So far, we’re lucky that way, and the Girl’s moodiness is just moodiness. sounds like you will be doing some cobweb clearing in the next couple of weeks. eagles are amazing. I see hawks here now and then. I always feel that they’re bringing me messages. 🙂

Oh yes, an eagle in flight is magnificent 🙂 Lovely that you saw it. Perhaps you felt the flight tug on all that magnificence in you. Very nice that you shared about it, too. Enjoy today’s gift of life and know you are loved and free and good. Hugs,

MageB

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Marvelous that you saw an Eagle in flight. Amazingly strong, swift, and gentle with their chicks. Many cultures respect the Eagle. The Native Americans do. This is a good omen, seeing a noble Eagle..Smiles..

Torin

I sometimes see eagles around here. Not very often, but from time to time. With a warm smile…

~Dreamer

I’m also really pleased you got to see the Eagle in free flight, it truely is an amazing thing to see, they are such majestic birds, and I agree with ~Kalestra, it is a good omen. I hope things do get sorted out for you all with the schools. Parenting isn’t easy is it, and we don’t get any lessons in how to be a good one. *Winks and love, Bren.

gilraent

ugh. she sounds a bit like me, I sure wasnt fun for my parents. i wish you both luck 🙂

Robin W

You are doing all the right things for your girl. If we survive the teen years, will we get a medal? May your time off be enriching in surprising ways. Hugs,

FallingDog

Send that kid to me. I’ll fix ‘er! LOL! I loooooove teenagers. Anyway, it really does help when school doesn’t hurt so much. Getting her to a new place will make all the difference.

Poetic Passions

Sometimes changing schools can make all of the difference. Hope the vacation goes well. Love and hugs. xoxoxo

XistDense

Oh, I think your vacation will have wonderous payoffs. Peace and strength,