theories part 3

this may not be as deep as past theories have been. but nevertheless, its things ive noticed and want to document.

 

THERE ARE 3 TYPES OF GIRLS IN THE WORLD. shows like sex and the city and how i met your mother and friends…they try to make out there are more..that its more complex…daddy-issues or sex-freak or independent or needy. its far simpler than that. every girl can be classified into one of 3 groups.

 

GIRL 1

this is the lucky girl. these girls tend to be aesthetically pleasing in all the right ways..conventionally pretty..like in the movies.. they physically have nothing out of place. they often have nice features. they tend to be wanted by men. the unachievable to some, the achieved by others.

these girls may have had problems in the past. they may even have issues..but they are lucky enough to have stepped out of them with minimum discomfort and ease.

any insecurities or problems they have are generally surface deep. their nose is wonky. their hair wont curl. their boobs could be a bit bigger. but nothing that really sets them against other people like them. if they stood in a crowd of women, they would still be the best. still be the desirable. still be wanted. despite any flaws they think they might have.

guys often go after them. and its baffling for other women. yes they have plain beauty. but more often than not…thats about it. they tend not to have personality. personality will make a person drop a few points. they tend to be too sweet. faults and flaws are forgiven. they could have the wildest dirtiest most rebellious teenage years…and yet be the first to find a decent man to marry.

these girls are vessels. they require minimum effort. they may be high maintenance..but there is no substance to them.

these girls are lucky in life. guys will always fall at their feet. they will always have the pick. the pick of NORMAL guys. im not saying good looking. im not saying clever…im saying NORMAL. normal GOOD guys. they dont have to work to meet the right guy, the right guy will magically appear.

these girls will also screw other guys over. men will fall for them, and because they have their pick, they will toy with their hearts. they are the girls that screwed up your boyfriend a bit. made them forget how to trust.

women can be found resenting them. wishing that they GIRL 1 wouldnt complain about a “lack of lovelife because they havent been on a date for 2 weeks”….they wish they would realise just how lucky they are. a piece of humble pie perhaps? feeling sorry for oneself doesnt make you a humble person.

 

GIRL 2

i would say this is the blessed girl. but it doesnt come without hard-graft.

i would also say i probably come into this category. in fact a lot of girls come into this category. GIRL 1’s probably think they are as hard done by as GIRL 2. and GIRL 3 are probably in denial that they arent GIRL 2.

GIRL 2 are the girls that are normal. not stunning. no models or actresses. guys dont turn to look at her…shes just normal. growing up she wasnt that pretty little girl everyone would coo over. she was normal. in fact, there may have been a flaw. a flaw that would stick with her and make her a little bit insecure. too fat. too thin. too tall. too small. something that makes her…well not stand out in a crowd…but makes her conscious to be in a crowd in the first place.

in fact…when there are 2 girlfriends…and they go out. one will always get more hit on than the other. thats not to say that both arent equally beautiful…just that GIRL 2’s beauty doesnt stand a chance against the other (often a GIRL 1).

people will have to get to know GIRL 2 before they realise her true potential.

as a result, this girl will have developed a personality. she will have developed a defense mechanism. something to protect herself. she often ends up the buffer girl. (see article re: i am empty so tell me you care for me, 14/11/09)

i can give you so many examples of what i mean.

I have been told on many occasions that i am beautiful or pretty or funny or clever. but never at first introduction. i will know someone for roughly 3 months before they turn to me, in surprise and say “omg…you’re actually really pretty”. WHY IS IT SUCH A SHOCK!? why havent they noticed before? why do they have to “oh my” God?

GIRL 2 doesnt necessarily have insecurities…and sometimes it scares people. so they get attacked a lot. misplaced. ive been told countless times in my life that i am a bitch. i never vindictively wanted to hurt anyone. ive never had that desire. but it bothers people. they cant handle it. so eventually i got broken down. unless GIRL 2 gets some hidden support…they tend to get worn down. withering.

GIRL 2 will always have a lot of guy friends. guys will think theyre funny. think they have jokes. think that GIRL 2 is a reliable girl…they will always go to GIRL 2 for relationship advice. GIRL 2 can be the guy’s best friend that the guy’s girlfriend is jealous of. GIRL 2 may also command respect.

but GIRL 2 WILL NEVER GET ASKED OUT BY NORMAL GUYS. GIRL 2 will always get hit on in clubs/pubs/the street by the drunk man who cant control his bladder/weirdo that wont stop staring/stranger who wont take no for an answer. they wont meet someone normally. wont get asked out by a decent guy at uni. wont have a chance meeting with someone on the street followed by a whirlwind romance and happy marriage. no. GIRL 2 will have hook ups at uni with guys who are bored. GIRL 2 will think positively about any guy that ACTIVELY shows romantic interest…but more often than not, GIRL 2 will never really find love. she has to WORK DAMN HARD for it.

any guy that does manage to grace GIRL 2 with romance…she will have to fight to keep him in check. fight to make a relationship work. fight to make sure that nothing goes wrong. and if not so lucky, will have to fight to find one in the first place. meet friends of friends of friends. go on blind dates. do internet dating sites. have the pointless late night conversations. often in vain.

that man in the movies doesnt just end up in GIRL 2’s lap. she has to fucking find him, catch him and keep him there.

if hes a decent guy, (finger’s crossed) he’ll stay…because the 3 month rule will kick in and he’ll reali

se how awesome she really is…

but if hes a jerk, she will get jerked around. and he’ll never appreciate her, and her heart will be broken.

there is nothing really WRONG with GIRL 2. she just cant catch a break.

i luckily did. but not without hard work. i have plenty of GIRL 2 friends. but they cant be bothered to do the work. they want to be GIRL 1’s…they are waiting for prince charming to happen. but they ought to recognise that they are GIRL 2’s…like most people…and life isnt that lucky. and they have to work hard. they have to go on dates. they have to meet guys. they have to do the internet dating site. be introduced by whosoever….i started dating when i was 18. i had some jerks. i was clever enough to not let them yank me around. a couple did. i was never desperate..i was only modest enough to give everyone a chance. i was always prepared to fight for them. sadly none of them were willing to fight for me. or should i say thankfully? I never had to fight for ST…i landed him. like a reward for my hard work…

 

GIRL 3

these are the tricky ones.

all girls start off as GIRL 3. mentally.

physically they look the same as GIRL 2. sometimes even GIRL 1….

but for some reason GIRL 3…i dunno how to explain it…

its like we all start off as a shiny egg. GIRL 1 eggs are cracked open and used to bake a beautiful cake.

GIRL 2 eggs get boiled and hardened and soft on the inside and are a bit savoury but pretty damn good…

GIRL 3 eggs never get baked. the girls still stuck in the mentality of a 15 year old.

when girls are 15, they imagine life is like the movies.

GIRL 1 never has to know otherwise…their life does pan out like the movies. GIRL 2 wisens up to the truth…but GIRL 3….they keep imagining.

touching a boy’s hand means you’re gonna get pregnant. talking to a boy on the phone for hours every night means you must like each other. if you fancy a boy..you think about them really hard…and whenever you think about them it means that the boy is thinking about you. if you fancy a guy…by rule they ought to fancy you…and if they dont they are jerks.

they dont understand that just because you like someone…doesnt mean they HAVE to like you back.

GIRL 3 will fathom relationships from nothing. they will assume they are in a relationship because they talk to a guy for hours on end, and the guy said shes pretty therefore it means he must like her and she likes him so that means hes committed. and they are together. forever and ever and happily ever after. phew.

GIRL 3 will try every excuse to try and prove that she is meant to be with a guy. she will let him treat her like crap and make excuses for his behaviour. she will play wifey…while hes out banging some other girl. GIRL 3 is truly clueless.

GIRL 3 will draw deep and meaningful reasons and relationships from guys that are just her friends. those friendships will dissipate and destroy because GIRL 3 oversteps the boundary and the guy will freak out…because how else do you deal with a 15 year old girl crush?

GIRL 3 will sit and pine and write their names in hearts and try to crop photos together to see how they look as a couple. GIRL 3 will think that the way to build a relationship is to act how they “should act”…and not just be themselves. they will try to talk sexy. they will try to talk witty. they will want the guy to see them when they are “natural”…or rather dolled up and basking in the glow of good friends that will make her feel confident. she will never just be herself. never show what her real potential is.

GIRL 3 sometimes can get the guy. she can sometimes get a really great guy. but GIRL 3 is not modest enough to give them a chance. GIRL 3 will always go for someone she cant have. its like they enjoy being punished. like they crave to be put down by some guy not even worthy.

GIRL 3 tends to be quite insecure. but shes too stubborn and misinformed to know it. the blame gets passed around a lot instead of being sorted. essentially, she will put other people down before understanding she was talking about herself.

everyone goes through being 15 and liking boys/girls for the first time. but we’re meant to grow out of it. we’re meant to understand how life changes. we’re meant to mature. you wouldn’t let a 15 year old get married and have children…it is virtually out of the question…and yet there are women out there with the emotional maturity of a 15 year old delivering our babies, fighting in our courts of law, running the world…it doesnt seem right  to me.

 

I have examples of all 3.

GIRL 1 Example: VS. a girl at uni who all the guys leapt for. she landed the best looking guy in the year. they are still together. shes sugary sweet. but there is something creepy about her. something shes hiding. some sort of vindictive bitchy behaviour we know nothing of. but it doesnt matter. cos shes pretty and lucky.

GIRL 2 Example: ME. me me me me me me. SL. SK. MN. All girls with great personalities, girls that are beautiful inside out. but girls that cant seem to catch a break.

GIRL 3 Example: My sister. shes nuts. she stalked a guy for 3 years because he was vaguely good looking and would talk to her on the phone for a few hours every night for about 2 months. she had to force him for a date. and a month after he continued to talk to her regularly and never asked her out again. she assumed they were in love. within 6 months of them talking he met someone else and was with her for 18 months. my sister still maintained they were in love. she lost her friends over it. she even lost her sister over it. because she blamed me. she told me it was my fault he wasnt going out with her. that because i refused to talk to him at my brother’s registry wedding, he knew i didnt like him and therefore didnt want to be with my sister. had nothing to do with the fact that my sister was fake and crazy. everything to do with the fact that i was pissed at him for stringing her along…right…sure?…if you say so…

 

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if anyone has any other views or disagrees im happy to hear it. but generally speaking, in my experience…everybody fits these categories.

*disclaimer: there are inbetwe

eners. my friend MN was a GIRL 1 during school but she blossomed into a GIRL 2..she is beautiful and has a cracking personality…she has the whole package essentially…and yet she still gets weirdos… but every woman goes through phases…its just easier to see where you want to be when you can understand the boundaries and characteristics of each category. like i said, all girls wish they were GIRL 1. life would be easier. but im quite happy as GIRL 2. and im glad i went through GIRL 3 at the appropriate age. and if i was still a GIRL 3…i would currently be striving to change that mentality of myself because i know its not healthy…like my friend AJ who was intelligent enough to talk to me about it and realise what she needed to do. i am so proud of her and how far she has come. and i congratulate her every week i message her for understanding it was not healthy. she is a beautiful person.