being married

the gang 

yesterday jason and i attended a wedding together. there is quite a bit of background into this story…so bare with me.

cast of characters
jason- my boyfriend
erik- my friend of a few years(pictured above)
megan- the grooms sister/my friend of many years/erik’s girlfriend(pictured above)
aaron-the groom/jasons old roomate/my old neighbor
christie-the bride

so many years ago jason and aaron attended the young church which is pretty much a big happy cult. jason got out of it because he is the smartest boyfriend of ever. but the church consumes you! most of the members believe in the crap laid out in the book "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" where couples don’t date, don’t kiss etc….because Jesus told them to be together. creepy.

so about six months ago, two ministry leaders from this church decided Aaron and Christie should get married, so they participated in the hooking up of the two. Their first date was premarital counseling. Yep, that’s right….no dinner, no movies, counseling. creepy. So three months after their pre-martial counseling began, they were engaged, and three months after that….the wedding. Following that sort of time line, Jason and I would be engaged next week….creepy. So the whole wedding was sort of a joke to begin with. But I agreed to go because Jason was a groomsman. and a handsome one at that.

The actual ceremony was a joke. It was about true love, and Jesus, and just a bunch of garbage. I cannot believe that Christie and Aaron were in love with each other. It just doesn’t happen like that. How can you be in love from just holding hands? I feel the way for Jason, because of how he makes me feel when it is late at night and we are sleeping in each others arms, talking about life. That kind of thing makes me like him, but only holding his hand? Jeez!!

Never once during the wedding was it like, FINALLY! These two are together. It was like, eeehhh this is nice, could work out. But there was no joy.

The reception was even worse.

1. no music
2. no dancing
3. no alcohol
4. the only food was hor d-ourves

so jason and i snuck in peach vodka, and megan and erik snuck in a few bottles of chardonnay. the parents of aaron and christie were both drinking with us. basically because they think that their kids are psycho. christies mom approached our table and asked if we were ‘wierdos’ meaning members of the young church. and she just told us the saddest story of how her daughter is so removed from her. she said that her daughter is so seperated from the family, and now they think it will only get worse. the whole thing is just so sad.

after the totally lame reception, aarons parents and siblings, erik, jason and i, christies parents and siblings and some of their friends all went to boomers for dinner. it was a great time. we drank, smoked, laughed and danced. it was a great finish to an awful day. megan, erik, jason and i also went and saw man of the year. then jason and i came back and talked for hours before we went to sleep. it was a great day, because i spent so much quality time with jason. and we think alot of the same things, i’ve realized.