Wake Up Already!
I just came across a diary a moment ago of some woman who claims to be the "other woman". It of course is one of those train wreck diaries that everyone is going to end up reading. This woman will end up with piles of notes from readers who think that it is okay that she is the "other woman". Readers who sympathize with her for being in her situation. Oh yeah… and she is trying to figure out how she will explain it to I’m assuming her very YOUNG daughter when the time comes. Ummm… HELLO? Is there NOT something wrong with this picture?
How sad and pathetic our society has become for it to be acceptable to sympathize with this situation. How about not telling your daughter that this married man is mommy’s special friend? What about sympathizing with the guy’s wife who is being cheated on? What about not giving this "other woman" the attention that she is so obviously seeking by having this diary here? It makes me mad that people just go with it. It’s so common that they would rather side with the "other woman" than the victim of the situation.
And to add to the preachiness of this entry I’m going to go all the way and say exactly WHY people act in this manner. They have chosen to leave God out of their lives. Plain, pure and simple. Now of course there are going to be those that say, I don’t believe in God and yadda yadda yadda. Well I do. And through my love for God and through my love for my neighbor, I know that it’s quite obvious people have turned their back on loving one another and loving God. He gave them the choice though, so there we have it. Instead of choosing to bless one another and be kind, loving and compassionate towards one another, let’s all just sleep with other people’s spouses and call it a day. I think I’ll pass.
I pray that God will open this woman’s eyes to the destruction that she is welcoming into her life. I pray that God will soften her heart and help her to end the relationship and therefore her role as the "other woman". I pray that she will recognize her mistakes and take steps to repair her broken relationships.
And I hope that people will open their eyes and stop accepting what is so very obviously wrong but for whatever reason considered and accepted as a part of every day life now. There’s still time for change.
Oh… and before anybody leaves a note about "oh you’re just judging her." No I’m not. I’m recognizing the situation for what it is. It’s wrong. The situation is wrong. It needs to be fixed. She has the power to fix it. I hope she does. I’m not saying anything other than that.
RANDOM NOTER: I understand where you are coming from. I try not to judge people but I just can’t understand how people end up in that situation. And I feel very sad for her daughter. (and sad for the wife also). I couldn’t even begin to contemplate putting myself in such a position even if I did not have children. Good on you for speaking your mind.
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Yes!!!
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Being the “other woman” is wrong, but things often happen unexpectedly and grow from there. Honestly, though, I don’t see what god has to do with this. I’m sure people who follow god and religion have turned out to be the “other woman” or “other man” before too.
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it IS wrong, plain and simple. i don’t care what the story behind it is. if she knew or found out about the wife, she should’ve been a big person and walked away. i can never understand why women willingly do this sort of thing. i can’t necessarily say that they’ve walked away from God. that may or may not be the case. but i can understand why you’d say that. as for explaining it to her child. it’s easy. tell the truth. the woman couldn’t find someone SINGLE so she had to go after someone else’s man.
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Randomed in… and having been on both sides of the fence… I can honestly tell you that 99.9% of affiars start out very innocently and then snowball from there. They aren’t thinking about God or the wife or even the other person for that matter. They are concentrating on how THEY themselves feel. They are lacking something in their own lives and they seek it elsewhere. You didn’t say whether this woman is married or not so I’ll assume not. Sometimes we make choices (God after all did give us free will) that aren’t so good but they are just that a choice. WE choose whether or not we take things from one level to another and sometimes we are to far in the “fog” of the affair to listen to reason. sometimes the wife finds out other times they don’t but almost ALL know in their gut that something isn’t “quite right” with their marriage/spouse. So while it’s easy for us (people looking in) to think clearlyand see the right from wrong, those in the affair aren’t & can’t. All you can do is just pray that they realize the damage they are doing to themselves & their families before it’s too late.
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.random. god’s not in my life but I agree with you 100% on sympathizing with the woman who’s being cheated on.people just don’t have basic respect for what marriage means anymore. it makes me sad. *
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