Best friends, alcohol, and lies… Any connection?

Lately my feelings have being very hurt thanks to my wonderful boyfriend. Let me explain.

October, my boyfriends work has a Halloween party. He goes dressed up as a pirate. Gets drunk, and hangs out with friends. In the beginning when i was told about this party it was only him and the guys from work and some family friends. Later on that night, all of a sudden when i talk to him, he is being security because things are getting out of hand. Why do u need security at a party only friends and family friends are going to be at? Well come to find out it ends up being this huge party with tons of people, a keg,  a DJ and all kinds of stuff. Which is fine with me at the beginning. Until he stops answering my calls and telling me "I have to go" everytime he does decide to answer. Then later on that night his plans are to come home. But does he show up? Of course not. So im beyond pissed. Wouldnt you be? The next morning i wake up at 10:00 and call him, and he is still not on his way home. My response is "party is still not over?" His is "Ill be home soon". 12:00 comes around and he walks through the door. Thanks asshole, im glad you want to spend time with your pregnant girlfriend you love so much and your kids. Then what does he do? Goes to sleep. Nice huh? So he wakes up and i give him the whole "you didnt even invite me, you lied to me about who was going to be there, you never came home, you hung up on me when you DID answer my calls" speech. That lasted a while. My feelings hurt more than i was mad.  So his next move.

Mid December he is so excited about his Christmas party for work. "He cant wait to take me, its going to be so much fun, they’re gonna have a nice dinner, and a comedian come and everything". Man was he happy that he was able to take his girlfriend. You know since, Girlfriends were the only ones allowed. So were hanging out with our friends one day and all of a sudden the Christmas party comes up. "I’m not taking my girlfriend" is his response. His excuse, "I dont want my friends to hit on you because they all think your hott and im gonna be drunk and just get pissed and want to go home." GET OVER IT! If he cant trust his friends around me then he shouldnt be hanging out with them right? Thats how i look at it. Few days later "he cant wait for the christmas party to come so he can take his girlfriend." WTF?!?!? Few days later "I’m not taking my girlfriend." The night before the christmas party "Babe, i really want you to come to the christmas party, i want to be able to spend time with you and hang out with you and my friends and just have a good time." My response is "You only want to take me because you know that i was upset when you said i couldnt go, because i was looking forward  to it." Okay, i dont do anything. I stay at home with his kids, his family, and clean their house. I dont go anywhere. I have no life, no friends, no nothing. I’m pregnant, what do you expect. My family is my get away. Which i’m lucky if i spend a day with them a week. Couple hours here and there is it. So of course im looking forward to being around him and our friends, and getting to DO something. So the day of the Christmas party, he comes home from work at like 11:00 a.m. with his best friend Trish. They have been best friends for like ever. So its cool. Until 3:45 p.m. rolls around and im doing my hair and make up, getting ready to go. What does he say " Where are you going?" What do i say of course. "Well, what time does your christmas party start?" His remark is," Your not going." WTF?!?!?! My God, im so upset now. Because now i have just wasted make up and hair supplies, not only that but my time, getting ready to go to something i am completely looking forward to, just to be told that i can’t go. OUCH! Whatever. I get over it. 4:45 comes around and they have to leave because his other friend has to be home by 6:30, and they still had to drop off his girlfriend plus drop off Trish, then go all the way to his house on the other side of the country. Like an hour away. How do you plan on doing all that? They don’t of course. Instead, they head straight to his friends house, then straight to the christmas party. With his friend Trish, his friend, and his friends girlfriend. TALK ABOUT A BURN! I just got kicked to the curb on something that is supposed to be a "girlfriends only allowed thing" for a best friend. But not only did that happen, but i was lied to about it the whole night. Every time i talked to him i asked "Did Trish go with you?" His answer is what "NO, her mom wouldnt let her come." BULLSHIT!!! So what happens. My very very drunk boyfriend calls me at 1:30 in the morning to tell me to come pick him up. Well by then i am convinced Trish is not with them. Until of course i show up at his friends house and she is passed out drunk in the middle of the floor, covered in blankets. What do i say.

ME: "Who is that?"   HIM: "J.C."   ME: "not him, next to him, on the floor."   HIM: "Dee."   ME: " not her, the other side of him."    HIM: "Trish"   ME: "I thought you said she didnt come to the party with you" As my eyes are filling up with tears because i am so hurt.   HIM:  " Well she did." Okay this is so not okay with me. So we leave and go home. 

To be honest, if he would have said from the VERY BEGINNING. "Hey, im gonna take trish with me to the christmas party because i havent got to hang out with her in a long time, and she hasnt got to meet any of my friends" I would have been fine. But he tried to play me for a fool. He lied to me. So would you not be pissed too? Or more so, hurt?

Today… My boyfriend leaves for work. Goes to his office and loads up his truck. Him and his friend head out to the country. Not far from our house, where i am sitting by myself with the kids, wishing he were home. Instead, he does not work. He goes to their friends house, hangs out there, then heads to hang out with Trish and Rose where they just so happen to be at the place they were going. Which happens a lot, but should not have happened today. So im on and off the phone with him all day today. Does he mention to me one time today that they are with him? Well of course not. So they load up in the truck and all head to their other friends house. I call my boyfriend at 5:30ish and he says "Me, Bret, J.C. and Max are all sitting here trying to watch a movie." Now, do any of those names sound like Trish and Rose? HELL NO!!! So, he calls me a little later, and wants me to come pick him up. But he says "Man, im screwed. Can you come pick me, Trish, Bret, and Rose up from the office?"  Hmmm, let me think… NO… is what i want to say. Now, why didnt he tell me he was with them earlier when they were at his friends house? Shit like that makes me think crazy. One thing is i dont like being lied to, at all. I let my last boyfriend lie to me all the time and his so called "best friend" ended up pregnant with his baby. Of course im a lot a bit insecure about stuff like that. So he finally gets a ride home, and is drunk. Stumbling in the door, come

s and sits next to me, tries to feel me up, and then when i tell him to stop he gets pissed off. "Hello, im pissed off, do u think i want you touching me right now? NO!!!"  Then he has this ring in his right ring finger and i ask him where he got it. "I found it" then i ask him "Did Trish give it to you" "yeah" is his answer and he is stumbling down the hall way and passes out in the bed.

Am i overreacting or should i be upset about this? Please help, i dont know what to do.