I Must Just Be a Bitch

What is so wrong with being ticked or disappointed with people who don’t do what you want, hope for, wished they would do? Huh?

I have been trying to tie down a date with my MIL to celebrate Brian’s birthday (June 27th) and to my knowledge, we were shooting for Saturday, June 21st. I told her I needed to check with Lynne – just to make sure that day wasn’t free for them to celebrate her daughter’s birthday and it has been like pulling teeth to get her to say a final no to the idea. Which – if you read my entry from yesterday, you know all about THAT whole mess.

So – I find out yesterday, right? So I E-mail my MIL last night and this morning, I have an E-mail saying she thought we were busy so she bought tickets with a friend to a local minor league basketball team away game up in Grand Rapids, MI for that night! They already have season tickets and go to every, single home game and the one night we might have been free for her son’s birthday and she buys tickets before I even got back with her???

Obviously, when I told her I was trying to check with Lynne – either she misunderstood it was totally up in the air or thought it was a pretty solid thing. NOW – we have no other Saturdays to get together and Brian is iffy about celebrating his birthday anyway so a week or so past the actual date and he really won’t want anything to do with it.

Why do so many people’s birthdays have to be in the same couple of months? That is why all of our weekends are freaking filled up! This Saturday is Andy’s birthday and we are supposed do be doing something with them but I am getting the impression she is going to bail at the last minute, which might just send me over the edge. It is her birthday and all but we could have went out with Brian’s mom this weekend if she really is too busy. Just tell me for sure!

MIL is now busy on the 21st and the 27th with basketball games, July 5th is the 4th of July party at the lake and now July 11th is my friend, Carol’s 60th birthday party – maybe. Yes – Brian’s birthday celebration with his mom will not happen.

So yes, I was disappointed and maybe my E-mail to his mom was worded a little too strongly. I think I just said something like I can’t wait for basketball season to be over with so they have more weekends free. I didn’t mean it shitty – OK, maybe at the minute I wrote it, I did. I realize that we are just as busy as they are and why are our plans any less inconvenient to work around than hers?

Then, I E-mail Andy about it and she totally berates me for being upset – saying aren’t we the ones who are busy every Saturday during college football season (used to be true but hasn’t been for the past few years) and that Brian is probably happy his mom has fun plans for herself.

But I am still disappointed, damn it. Which must make me a bitch!