Girl’s Night Out – My ASS! *EDIT*

I just had to write really quick and bitch about these girl’s nights out I have been planning for the past couple of years. I am getting sick and tired of feeling like the only one who looks forward to these things or tries to arrange their schedules so they can actually attend.

Contrary to popular belief – we ALL are busy, we all have responsibilities in our lives whether it is kids, husbands, boyfriends, family, work, church, school, charities – whatever and if you really want to do something, it shouldn’t be THAT difficult to plan for 1 hour per month to get together with some friends. If you can’t swing it – that just tells me you don’t really want to do it.

So pretty much everyone I know doesn’t want to do it anymore. It has been a pain for more months than I care to count. I have to put way more effort into keeping everyone organized and keeping track of who is coming and who isn’t than I should. It should be fun, it should be easy, it should be something everyone is looking forward to and excited about and if they aren’t, then it just isn’t worth it.

But somehow, every month, we manage to get a group of about 4-6 ladies and once out, we have such a great time. I just wish I had some people I could really count on to be there – regardless of what everyone else does, so I know if I show up, I won’t be sitting there alone.

I try, damn it- I really do try to make friends, to keep friends but noone else seems willing to try with me. It makes me sad and disappointed and takes away from the reason I started doing this in the first place.

Our next night out is tonight and I just sent off an E-mail to the final 4 gals who have not called to cancel in the last two days to say – if you aren’t coming, you need to tell me now . . .and no response yet. Granted, it is around lunchtime and I told them they had until 5pm to get back with me but every fucking one of them better E-mail me back and say yes or no, for sure.

One more time. . .I will try this one more time and then that is it. It really is a shame too – it really can be so much fun. We have so many great restaurants to try, so many great times to be had . . .if I had anyone to have them with!

Girl’s Night out is officially cancelled this month.

Out of the 4 left, 1 girl cancelled because 2 of her friends already had.

One had a meeting come up that was going to keep her until 6pm and I have to leave by 6:45 for a 7pm hair appt so by the time she got there, she would only have about 30 minutes for 1 drink.

Another was only coming to celebrate the birthday of another girl who cancelled and wasn’t going to be there.

And the final one never responded.

Thanks so much for your notes – keep ’em coming because I will take whatever suggestions I can get. However, in terms of making new friends – that was the whole point of scheduling these nights out – I literally ask every able bodied woman I know personally and professionally and I was hoping they would in turn bring ladies they knew so I could meet new people. Never happened.

Where do I meet new people as an almost 35 year old childless woman? I am on that board for the charity organization – no new friendships have come from that yet. Just switched jobs at my firm and have yet to make any new friends from that (though it has only been 2 weeks).

I truly don’t know where else to turn at this point.