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I’ve had people ask me how Mich and I keep our passion and “in-love-ness” alive. It is a good question and one I think about quite often, because it’s been almost 5 years and I don’t feel like things have grown old or stale at all. And before you tell me… oh, just wait until 10 or 20 years… I’ll tell you this. I’m the type of woman who has always grown bored after only a year or two. I always thought it was just me, but now that I have found THIS… I know it wasn’t really *just* me, but the relationship I had chosen at the time.
 
So, my answer to this question now is – Change. Change has kept us in-love and passionate for each other. After almost five years, we still don’t have a set routine. We do not have the same schedule every week and we don’t have a TV schedule to set a routine for us. We have the furkids that keep us a bit structured, but even that has changed over the past five years. And things as small as the way we look or the types of activities we like to do change too.
 
I seriously think this is what has kept us so much in-love. We still look forward to seeing each other. We do things on our own with our own friends and that makes us eager to see each other again. We do things together that are fun and that gives us great memories. We act as a team when it comes to the not so fun stuff and we know that we rely on each other to make things work, so we never have to talk about our responsibilities.
 
We’ll create some good memories on our next vacation up to my mom’s house in less than a month. I’m excited. I’m going to surprise her with a couple’s massage and facials for us at a local spa. We’ll get lunch included and then we can use the rest of the facilities which include whirlpool, sauna, indoor/outdoor pools, and workout facilities. I hope we both feel really refreshed afterward.
 
Tomorrow I have a “lunch” with one of the vendors I’m working with right now. I’ve worked with him in the past and I’m hoping that is the only reason he has been overly friendly with me on email. This past week, one or two of his comments on email have been red-flags to me. I mentioned it to Mich. I just assume that everyone I worked with in the past in our area knows that I’m a lesbian… but who knows. Maybe he’s either oblivious or just doesn’t care. I don’t easily assume people are flirting with me… It usually surprises me when people do. So, these comments were pretty blatant. Mich is going to conveniently show up at the end of my lunch hour with this guy… We laughed and said that she should come over and hit on me. Not sure how it all will play out, but I hope I’m just misinterpreting friendliness because I have to work with him for the next 6 months at least.