Brunch With The Girls ~ Gone Off Track

After I posted my entries this morning (I kept the really bitchy parts private) I found a movie to watch. Did I watch the movie? Nope! I fell asleep! I woke up again, changed the channel to another movie. Did I watch any of that movie? Nope I went back to sleep! I have to be doing something otherwise I go to sleep! During the daylight hours I can sleep on cue! I did wake up on time to meet the gals from college that I had planned on meeting…but Dick was still not home! So I called him on his cell phone ~ believe it or not he answered. They were almost done strapping the garage but he said that they were not going to move it today. If I went to brunch he would be home shortly. So I did reluctantly go to meet the gals for brunch.

I got to our meeting place and parked. After I parked I noticed two of them sitting in the one vehicle way over there so I got out of my car and walked way over there.

“What are you waiting for? Christmas?”

It’s closed! The place that we had planned on meeting was closed and they could not get a hold of the other gal that was meeting us. We decided on another place. We talked and waited for R. We figured that we had waited long enough so we finally ordered and talked some more. We ate and we talked. We talked and talked some more! It was really fun!

The bad part ~ the one gal ~ D and T (my ex-husband) have mutual friends. This is not always such a good thing! I just want the least connection to him as possible. Even if we are friends I just do not want to be connected to him! He is such an idiot! And I found our just how much more of an idiot he really is.

When we were separated, waiting to go to court for our divorce, he bought a brand new house. I think that he bought it to lure me back. I felt like that the first time that he gave me the grand tour. What man would choose to have mauve carpet in his bedroom? So that was clue one ~ I thought that it was strange but what the hell he has to live with it.

So anyway ~ we never did reconcile even though I did try once. I just could not by this time he had burned all the bridges. He told lies, untruths, not whole truths, and said some really bad stuff about me that was no where near the truth. There was no way I do that to myself. My self-esteem was already pretty low and he just pounded it even lower. I was getting on with my life without him and his new home.

He kept the house for about two years (if my memory serves me correctly.) Then “he gave it back because they had raised his house payments.” At the time I thought ~ you would rather pay rent (which was more than half of the amount of his house payment) for a dumpy two-bedroom apartment than make the payments on something that you will own someday. Two words came to my mind STUPID LOSER!

Today I found out that he did not actually “give” it back. They took it back ~ can you spell FORECLOSURE!

Yep, dumb ass lost his house! It just makes me wonder what he did with all his money. Even today he has an awesome paying job but has NOTHING! Yet, again living in a dumpy two-bedroom apartment.

This is why I have always expressed to Derek that he is welcome to live with us at any time. If he chooses to do so I will work it out with T. Once he learns how to drive and gets his driver’s license I am going to make the offer again. If he was living out here or if he would even spend some time out here he would have the chance to learn how to drive. T will not let him practice drive because his car has no speedometer and it hasn’t had one for over a year. “Oh I need to get it fixed.” No shit Sherlock! I think I am going to throw this idea Derek’s way. I am not being malicious and trying to “take” Derek from T but right now it would be in his best interest to be out here with us. Just as it was in his best interest when I chose to let T have “physical custody.” We have joint legal custody. (Which in this state is just a way to pacify the non-custodial parent. One more thing that I did not know until it was too late!)

It is a decision that Derek would have to make and I really don’t think that he will. I think, as I have always thought, that he does not want his Dad to be alone.

I made if home before Dick ~ even after stopping at Wal*Mart for a retail therapy session. I bought the girls each a pair of pants and a camisole/girls briefs set and I picked up two pair of cargo pants for Tyler. Mother was feeling guilty and I was not gone very long.

I will try to slip into la-la land!