Better

Okay, what a (self imposed) roller coaster of a week for me!  Monday/Tuesday…sad & frustrated.  Wednesday…over it and feeling blah. 

He texted me yesterday to ask what time I had texted him the night before.   I just responded with the time and we proceeded to text a bit back and forth.  He said he was going running and asked if he could call me, which he did around 7.  I was still feeling a bit blech about it all and the conversation was less than stellar.  Partly it was because he was going on and on about his work out partner (a girl).  He decided I needed to know all of her man issues.  I would have stopped him to let him know I didn’t care that much, but I knew because of my state of mind it would come across as super bitchy, so I held my tongue.  (which was a huge feat for me)  We talked for about 45 minutes and got off the phone to shower and eat.  He ended up calling me back around 9 and we had a much more pleasant (and regular…thank God) conversation.  We made plans for the next day for him to come over after work.  He’s out of town again and it was this or wait until Sunday.

So far so good until I get a text early afternoon the next day saying that he forgot he had the gym and wouldn’t be able to get here until 9:00.  9:00…are you fucking kidding me???  He then says that it might be better for me to go stay with him.  But not to come over until after 8:00.  Um…no.  It’s a 40 minute drive to work from his place.  (triple my normal time)  He at least has the option of sleeping in if he stays here.  I don’t mind leaving him.  I stressed about it all afternoon and never texted him back because I didn’t know what to do.  I talked to several friends about it and they all had the same opinion.  Not to go.  I got back to my phone around 4 and was going to tell him that we should just reschedule for Sunday, but he had texted me back saying if I wanted him to come here he would, but he reiterated that he wouldn’t be here until 9.  I texted him that it was so late and what the heck was he doing in the gym for 3 hours and that I would think about it.  He responded that he was taking a class that started at 6:45 and lasted an hour.  Well that makes sense!  But still, yeck.  My suggestion was for him to go to the gym, and just come here right after.  He can shower at my place and I would order food to go so it would be ready when he got here. 

I went on a walk and an hour later when I got back to my phone I missed a call from him.  We talked for a while before he got to the gym and decided that my plan was great!  🙂  He’s on his way now and if tonight goes well then I will feel a lot better about our weekend away.

I know that I was silly…I know it now, I knew it then.  I’m so glad I didn’t voice any of it to him, or he might think I’m crazy.  I have to say, it’s nice to have girlfriends (and my OD friends) to bounce things off of.  It makes me feel not so silly.  Love you guys!

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It’s hard for men to run a relationship when they already have a busy life! Relationships need invested time or it falls in a heap. It sounds like his having trouble striking a balance between you and his ongoing activities. It also sounds like he is making an effort but that the effort might be too hard for him. Not sure, either you’re very insecure, or his better off single. I hope your time together can also be used for you to express your concerns to him and what makes you feel unstuck. A discussion you both should have. G~

April 24, 2011

ryn: different people respond to things in different ways. and if you liked me a lot, one asshole line wouldn’t kill anything. it would just make you back up a bit, which was what i was after. (and now that i’ve updated myself on your entries, what happened?!! how was the big weekend?)