Ranting. God, I HATE Abusers So Much

Ah, yes, the marvel of ranting.  I could have gone on for so much longer, though, last night.  I find nowadays, there aren’t many things I absolutely hate, but abusive people is definitely one of those things.  People get cut down enough by students, peers, etc.  They don’t need the people who are supposed to nourish their minds, and build their confidence to be the ones cutting them down.  It disgusts me how often abusers get away with the things they do, as well.  So many times, I’ve heard the line that the abuse victim is the one who has to come forward.  But you know what?  That’s a load of BS, because what abuse victim is going to come forward?  They’re either going to be too scared that no one wil believe them, or that things won’t be done soon enough, and thinsg will get worse for them in the interim.  And you know what the most disgustingly, horrifying, and outrageous thing is?  Nine out of ten times, they’re right!!  No one will believe them, or things won’t get done soon enough, and things will be all the worse for them until something is done!  And if someone tries to say something to someone else, for their benefit, they get called an “angry teenager.”  Of COURSE I was angry!!!!  Wouldn’t abuse piss off anyone who has a heart???  If it doesn’t then, I’m sorry, you aren’t human.  Okay, no, I shouldn’t say that.  But if it doesn’t inspire some emotion, then you haven’t experienced it firsthand, or through a friend.

I mean, I find myself hating those abuse stories that turn out with happy endings.  Like Gold Diggers, that movie with Anna Chulumsky, and Christina Ricci.  It’s a good movie, and I do love it, but I also hate it, because it’s an abuse story, as well as everything else, and you know what?  That abuse story gets solved.  But I guarantee you, that isn’t how it would go in real life.  In reality, people are too willing to deny whatever they want about the adults they “know,” and all too happy to just pawn off that the “kids” saying all the stuff have over-active imaginations or some such.  I HATE it.  It disgusts me, and I swear, somehow, I’m going to help that change.  I don’t know yet how, but something has to be done, because millions of kids, teenagers, and who knows who else are going through abusive relationships with parents, lovers, spouses, and no one deserves it.

I can’t find it in my heart to feel sorry for any of the people who abuse others.  I don’t care that it’s probably a pattern and that they don’t know any other way to raise children.  Because I also don’t fully believe that.  They must have realized at some point in their lives that they were treated differently by their parents than other kids were treated by theirs.  So, why not see how bad of a thing it is?  Why deny it?  Why continue the cycle when you’re older?  Why do other people let the cycle continue?  Why don’t other people step up?  Why is the other parent, in a parent-child abuse case, willing to look the other way?  Can’t they see the pain in the child’s eyes?  Can’t they see that something wrong is happening?  Don’t they have enough heart to care for the child’s well-being and make sure something is done to correct this?

And in most cases, the answer is no.  They won’t see that pain, they won’t see that anything wrong is going on, they don’t care because they WANT to look the other way.

Well, I’ve looked right into the heart of an abuse victim.  And something scares me.  How deadened his emotions are, and . . .

 . . .will he ever stop looking so haunted?

–Notes–

Abusers are running rampant. Just tonight one of my friends at dance class was telling about how her uncle verbally abused her cousins right in front of her…sick, sick people. I am getting sick but in the physical sense…noooo…I don’t want to be unwell 🙁 [Jilliebean]
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I agree with you on all of this..and I see the results of abuse with Jason too. I worry..but It’s amazing how much you care about him. OMG. Gold Diggers..I love that movie. I haven’t thought about that movie in ages. Molly Morgan! Wow….yeah…I agree about it not being “realistic” though. I’d forgotten about that movie. I thought I was the only one who liked it. [SolarEclipse]
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Ryn: He could be scared. He might think that the closer you get to someone else, the further away you’ll get from him. That thought might be hurting him and causing him to axt jealous about not being the most important person in your life anymore. Try telling him how much he means to you and how much you treasure your friendship but to realize that everyone’s going to form new bonds with people as [*~Advice~*]
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times goes on. Things change. Friendships and relationships change. And there could come a time in his life when he falls in love with someonew new and finds that person to be the most important. Maybe you just emotionally moved on quicker than he has. Just make sure he realizes that no matter what, you plan on hanging on to your friendship and that no one else could change that. [*~Advice~*]
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Just wanted to say thanx for the note and i’m gonna come back and have a read of ur diary when I have a bit time. Loads of politics homework to do 🙁 [**Luce**]