Limitations Of Conversation

“Why is it that so many people put limitations on what they say?  Why do people always seem to keep secrets, regardless of how little or how small they are?” — HumanSoul

This is an intelligent question.  I’ll write my beliefs, holding back as little as possible.  Lol.

I think people put limitations on what they say because of issues of trust, as well as the demands that society places on us.  As far as the society thing goes, when we’re kids, we have so few inhibitions.  We have no problem just saying whatever is on our minds, in the exact way that it came to our minds.  We have no real sense of others feelings, or that speaking our minds could be a hurtful or embarrassing thing.  But as we get older, we realize that things we blurt out will hurt people, so things are repressed.  We aren’t as open with our thoughts as we used to be, so naturally things are repressed.  We become tactful, finding not-so-straightforward ways to say the thinsg we mean.

As far as the issues of trust that I mentioned, people tend to keep secrets from others, simply because they don’t have the level of trust with them that they may with other people.  I suppose the two are related, since the trust that you have with other people is connected with how open you feel you can be, thanks to your upbringing, and how much you repress.

Okay, I’ll probably write more on this later, when I don’t have these choppy thoughts, thanks to distractions around here.

–Notes–

That makes sense to me. I was just rambling on LiveJournal about wanting to have conversations where there are not limitations. I rarely put limitations on what I say. Then again I was raised to make my opinion known. How ever I love hearing others opinions on things too. Thanks for your answer to my question. Id love to read more on it! *hugs* Have a good day! [Human Soul]