I Knew It . . .

I knew I was gonna get jumped on for that last entry.  But, eh.  No big deal.  I honestly didn’t expect to NOT be jumped on for it.  Although considering what I covered in that last entry, I suppose "jumped on" is about the worst way possible I could put it.  Lol.  Anyway . . .

Well, Melanie left me a damn long note with that last one.  I don’t mind of course.  I was beginning to think she wasn’t reading them anymore.  But one thing that surprised the Hell outta me when I read it.  That she "falls under the category" that I was ranting about.  If there’s something about that in her diary, it’s news to me.  Though I’ve only read a handful of those entries.

I suppose I can see other’s points about mature adults and everything, but I still think that regardless of people making their own decisions, or practicing safe sex, or whatever, they’re still not being as smart as they should, because they’re risking the possibility of pregnancy.  Whether or not someone is having sex or not, I’m sure virgins and non-virgins alike can agree with me on this one: people at least should try to wait until they’re financially secure, and preferably married, before having sex.  Because, using Melanie as an example, though I hate to do it, she states that she is a mature twenty year old who can make her own decisions.  I’m not questioning that.  But what happens if one day, she finds out that she’s pregnant, even though the use of birth control was present?  (Does that sentence sound as grammatically weird to you as it does to me?)  Anyway, what is she going to do?  Her boyfriend is in another state, and as far as I’ve heard, only fairly infrequently comes down here, she is in school, and while she may have gotten a part-time job by now, she does not have a full-time one.  What kind of life would that baby have?  Judging by Melanie, and the kind of person and actions she has proven she will take, I’d say that despite hardship, that baby would grow up to be all right.  She’d manage, somehow, though things would be tight and fairly difficult for her, especially educationally.

I bring this up, only because it’s easier to do the scenario with someone I can name, and because this is a best case scenario outcome.  Others are not nearly so lucky.  I suppose that’s why I was writing all that yesterday.  I think that people are fools having sex outside of marriage and financial stability, because it’s basically a gamble.  Will you get pregnant, or won’t you?  And if you lose that gamble, and you don’t have the securities needed, you and that child are going to have one Hell of a hard life.

I suppose I should specify even further.  Because there are some people who have become parents, who I don’t believe should have.  They were married, had been for about two years or so.  But they were nowhere near financially secure, yet they had two babies.  I think that that is absurd.  Because now, not only are the parents struggling, but what kind of life are they giving to the kids?  Kids need security, they don’t need to be worried about, "are we going to have food to eat tomorrow?" from the time they’re four or five.

Yes, sex is a person’s own choice.  But way too many people make that choice all too lightly.  I wish the only factor was, "I love this person, and I will spend my life with them."  But it’s not.  Sex’s main purpose is to procreate life.  A life that many people rightly consider expression of two people’s love, but that’s the main purpose.  And anyone who forgets or denies that is fooling themselves.

Okay, again, stepping off the soapbox.  On to something else in Melanie’s note.  The reason I turned my entries to safe notes is because I knew that I was going to write an entry like this and the one before it sometime soon, and I hate people leaving disgusting notes with no name.  I’ve gotten a few before that I’ve deleted, and I’d rather not get more.  Frankly, I found those notes from the "Diary Phantom" entertaining, but if that person doesn’t have the guts to sign their name, why should I watse my time with it?  And don’t worry, I didn’t think you knew, and wasn’t going to ask.  I have my own suspicions of who it is, but since I’m never going to find out, it really doesn’t matter to me.

Okay, bye. 🙂 🙂 🙂

–Notes–

Despite what you may read in my diary…I do see Ken more than I let on. He makes a massive effort to come see me as much as he possibly can..being that he has a full time job complete with benefits and all that other stuff. He works really hard during the week, but for the most part, even though it is a six hour drive, he makes an effort to make the trip at least every other weekend, or less.  He makes a lot of effort and he does alot for me. He is an amazing person and he is responsible. I am as well. If we’ve made the decision to sleep together..we have thought about the consequences of that and we have both discussed it at great length. He is 24, and I am almost 20..we are both fully capable of making decisions about what we can and can not handle. If I didn’t trust myself and Ken, I never would have given myself to him. It was my choice to do so, but he also questioned it repeatedly, and asked if I was sure. I knew what i was doing then, and I do now. I don’t regret anything I have done. But I do understand your point of view on the subject..there are many couples out there who are not responsible when it comes to sex, and those are the people who have serious issues. 
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RYN: You do make good points about se before marriage. It can be risky. But even as you said, not all married couples even have the financial stability to have children. Few newly weds do. So if your argument is based on finacial stability, you should say, don’t have ex until you can afford a kid, not don’t have sex until you are married. 
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Personally, I had every intention of waiting untill I was married to have sex. Stuff happens. People change, including yourself. I don’t really know what to say about your note on my diary. If you don’t know how it feels, don’t say anything. I’m not looknig for advice on what to do. I slept with matt a long time ago. I don’t regret it for a second. 
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I was merely venting about something that had happened at lunch today. Again, I think it’s really cool that you feel so strongly about something, but please don’t steryotype every person who has had sex before they’re married as idiots. I can assure you, I am no idiot.