I Hate Conflict

I truely do.  I find debating entertaining, even fun at times, when dne with the right people.  But when you get a group, or even an individual, who is so damned passionate/obsessed/closed minded about a subject, things get tangled.

Yes, I am saying closed minded.  For all of you who decided to jump on me over notes I left, none of you bothered to find out if you even truly knew what I was saying before judging me, and quite hypocritically telling me “how dare you judge this.”

You see, I wrote about gay marriages from a Christian point of view, because whether anyone likes it or not, the churches are the ones who decide who to marry.  And the church, the entire Christian faith says that they will marry a man and a woman.  Or, to put it bluntly, “It was Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve.”

Now, one person decided to actually dedicate an entire entry to my notes and the response, in which was written that not everyone believes the Christian faith, and just because it’s out there doesn’t mean everyone should have to follow it.  That’s absolutely true.  With religion, I feel that as long as it’s not some sadistic form of devil worshipping, or sacrifices, etc., that people should worship however and whoever feels right to them.  If that’s Christian, Wiccan, Judaism, or whatever.

“you say that if a union between two gays is to take place it shouldnt be called marriage.  well why not?  why would u want to change the definition of marriage just bc 2 gay ppl wanna marry bc by definition marriage means the state of being united to a person of the opposite sex as husband and wife in a consensual and contractual relationship recognized by law.”

Right there, that is my entire point.  Marriage, by definition, means a union between two people OF THE OPPOSITE SEX.  I am not trying to change the defintion of marriage.  Every homosexual couple who is insisting that traditions, beliefs, etc., of the church be damned, they want to get married, they are the ones saying that the definiton should be changed.

And I will bring this point to you.  I have a Wiccan friend who did a hand fasting cerimony with a guy that she loved.  As far as Wiccans are concerned, at least as far as I know, that hand fasting cerimony is akin to a marriage.  Yet, it isn’t called a marriage.

You see, I’m not even sure what this “debate” or what can more accurately be called a note war is about.  Because these last few lines here, “but when u break it down and look at it logically it all boils down to this…not everyone believes the christian beliefs. and not everyone believes the same way i do so why should i infringe upon the rights of those who think and believe differently than i do?” are wrong.  That’s not what it boils down to at all.  On the subject of gay marriages, it boils down to this: Yes, they should have all the rights and claims that a marriage does.  But, if one or both of those people profess to be of a Christian faith, then they just have to accept the fact that a marriage will not, (or should not, anyway,) be performed for them, because when talking about the Christian faith, homosexuality has been condemned.  If they are of another religion, or don’t believe in a religion, or can find a figurehead of a different religion to wed them, so be it.  I’m not trying to say that homosexuals shouldn’t have the same rights in a union that heterosexual couples do.  But I am saying that they can’t, (or shouldn’t, anyway,) expect to be married in the church, under God, simply because of the very definition of what a marriage is.  A union between a man and a woman.

Not to mention that no matter what people say, and I did notice that some agreed with me on this point, the government should have no say in this matter.  It’s not a government issue, unless they’re going to grant civil unions, with all the rights of marriage, to gay couples.  The government should have no jurisdiction to be ordering churches to perform same sex marriages, simply because of what is supposed to be a seperation of church and state.

Okay.  I’ve said my piece on this.  Now, for those that noted me, if you read this, these are my parting words.  You were people who, either I found on random and noted, or who saw my notes, and noted me because of them.  I’d like to get back to enjoying writing about wat happens in my life, instead of writing about a worldly issue where I’m wasting my time anyway, because none of us are going to change our views.  Can we all just agree we’re random noters who know nothing about one another’s lives, (with any exceptions of any of you being IRL/online friends,) and put this behind us?