Advice About Friends

To: greenjellybean

From my personal experience, I think that this is something that needs to be resolved.  Yes, it probably would be easier to just leave things be until June, but then you might be left weith questions like, "Why didn’t I do something?"  Or telling yourself, "I should have done this."  And those are never good to have hanging over your head.

Especially since you and this girl have a best friendship in your background, you should talk to her, alone, but in person.  First, talk to your mutual friend.  Tell that girl that you don’t want to put her in the middle of this, and that you’re going to try to work things out so that at the very least there is peace between you and your former best friend.  Then, go talk to aforementioned former best friend.  Tell her what’s going on in your head.  Be honest, but try not to be emotional.  Just try to get answers to your questions, and let her know that you’re trying to open the lines of communication so things can be resolved.  Let her know that the past is the past, whether that means when you were best friends, or when you were enemies, and you’d just like to know why things went downhill the way they did.

If that’s what you’d like to find out.  I’m not really sure exactly what you hoped to gain with this, or if it was just a resolution and peace.

If she makes no move to answer your questions, or pretends to listen, but then goes to the mutual friend complaining, I’d honestly say, involve the mutual friend.  Tell her that this can’t be solved by just the two of you talking, and you’d like her there as a third party.  It may not seem fair, but sometimes a third party there can really help things, especially if she adds in that your former best friend’s behavior is hurting and affecting her, as well as the two of you.

Anyway, that’s about all I can think of to say on the subject.  I hope it’s helped, and that everything I said makes sense, considering I only used pronouns.  Anyway, good luck, and tell me how things turn out, okay?

Bye. 🙂 🙂 🙂

–Notes–

I’m at Hallmark again..but a different one in a different town away from Hazlet. Thank God.