24 Question Ex Survey

THE EX SURVEY: 24 QUESTIONS

1. If you are taking this, it’s probably because your ex is on your mind. Why is he/she on your mind?

Because I actually had a dream concerning him last night.  We were either almost civil to one another, or arguing about past things or our present situations.

2. What was his/her name?

Mike.

3. If you could refer to him/her with a nasty name, what would it be and why?

Manipulative, arrogant jerk.

4. Was the breakup mutual?

I gotta go with what the previous person said.  It was f-cked up.  But no, it wasn’t mutual by any standards.  I wanted it, he didn’t, I was weak and kept saying, "Okay, never mind, forget it, we’re still together."

5. Was it painful?

Again, I agree with the previous person.  The relationship was painful after awhile.  But yeah, the break up was, too.

6. How long were you together?

Officially, three years.  Add about four to that, since he wouldn’t let me go.

7. Would you want to get back together?

No.  Maybe if he was like he was when we first met.  But now, as far as I can tell, he’s an even more manipulative, arrogant, jddgemental ass who gave up his morals and promises because it doesn’t fit the way he wants to live now.

8. Did you love him/her?

I used to.  I haven’t for a long time.

9. Do you still?

No.  I stopped a long time ago.

10. Did you have a song?

Yeah.  Because You Loved Me, by Celine Dion.  I doubt I’ll ever be able to listen to it without thoughts of him, but hopefully it won’t depress me later on in life.

11. What song describes the breakup?

I’m honestly not sure.

12. What was the first kiss like?

Incredible.  My heart was beating like a jackhammer, and I honestly felt like this was it.  This was true love.  This was what I’d been waiting my entire life for.

13. And the last?

I don’t know.  I don’t remember our last kiss.

14. Did he/she ever play mind games with you?

Yeah, I’d say so, considering that not too far into our relationship, he told me he wondered if he’d manipulated me into loving him and to quote him, "I can play you like a fiddle."  I should have taken the hint then and left . . .

15. What was the best thing he/she did to/for you?

. . .

16. And the worst?

Wouldn’t let me break up with him, made me responsible for his sanity when I was barely holding onto my own, manipulated everyone we knew to be against me, tried to turn two of my best friends against me . . .

17. What was the best thing about him/her?

The best thing used to be that anything he said, I knew I could believe, because he wouldn’t lie.  But that’s nowhere near true anymore.

18. And the worst?

His neediness and clingy-ness.

19. Are you over him/her?

Maybe the person, but not everything he put me through.

20. Do you still see/talk to him/her?  Are you still friends?

I don’t want to see him.  I don’t want to talk to him.  I’d thought a few months back that maybe we could be friends, but I’ve realized since that there’s no way.

21. Is he/she with someone now?

Yep.  He’s with this petty, narcissistic photo-whore who cheated on her last boyfriend and then lied about it.  And if Mike’s still being manipulative, which I don’t doubt is the case, she’ll probably wind up cheating on him, too.  Frankly, I’m expecting it.

22. If so, are you jealous or angry? What do you think of your ex’s current romance?

I was jealous for a bit.  And yeah, angry that someone who cheated on her boyfriend and then has the audacity to claim how he did all this horrible stuff to her, is accepted into that group no problem, yet I’m ousted for things they don’t even have the decency to learn my side of.

23. Are you with someone new? Are you happier with your new romance, or wishing he/she were more like your ex?

I was with Rob, but we’re broken up right now, more living as roommates than fiance’s.

24. And finally, if you could say anything at all to your ex, what would you say?

"I can’t wait to hear what happened when she cheats on you.  Because like you once told me, once someone has cheated, they can’t be trusted.  They will cheat again.  And she already dropped you once.  What makes you so sure she won’t do it again when someone more convenient comes along?"