So Glad This Day Is Over
This day has been tough. I don’t want to say a lot about it because I’ve been trying to take my mind off of it all day. Plus I don’t want to get my resentment of the situation riled up again. To make a long story short, because of no cooperation in keeping my late parents home in livable condition or help with finances to do so, we lost it to the county today. I am the only surviving child but there are 11 grandchildren that were supposed to be helping and none of them would. My brother also was part owner while he was alive but he had a massive stroke and then dementia so his wife was in charge of everything. She wouldn’t even pay any of the bills or take care of the house when they lived there. I paid the back taxes when they moved out and dumped everything in my lap, but it put me so far behind that I couldn’t keep up the taxes or the upkeep. I was the only one living without a spouse and on one income. I don’t want to get into it now. It’s done and over with and Mom and Dad’s house is gone.
I spent most of today going through Mom and Dad’s things, mostly Mom’s. She was somewhat of a hoader and an antiques dealer so there are a lot of things. I found some really neat and interesting things in her papers. I lost all the furniture and photo heirlooms that I had in a house fire several years ago. What I have are things that no one else wanted after Mom died. Mostly cards, letters and her writings. But I am so glad to have them. I’m a little bit of a minimalism living with a hoarder so I don’t need any more stuff to try to figure out where I’m going to put it.
Intellectually I know that I am much better off with the house gone because I don’t have to worry about how I am going to pay back taxes or hire someone to mow the lawn all summer. Not to mention how I was going to keep the house from deteriorating even more from a leaking roof etc. But it was still Mom and Dad’s home and it hurts to see it go.
I have decided not to pursue a political career. I don’t need the stress. I’m just looking forward to volunteering at the pre-school. I will only volunteer for one session a day. I am starting with the afternoon session on Monday.
It’s getting close to my bedtime and I have a few things to do yet so chao for now!
🙁
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I’m sorry that you lost your mom’s house. 🙁 I know how it feels. My brothers couldn’t wait to get their hands on the money from the sale of the house, and we went too fast in clearing out everything. A lot of it was sold or given away, and the grandkids didn’t even get a chance to take anything. I know what you mean about not wanting to be resentful. If I think about it too much, I start getting aggravated.
I’m glad you decided not to run for office! I’m sure that would have stressed you out!
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What an emotional day it’s been for you. And, the end of an era with the losing of your parent’s home. Life makes me sad sometimes with the way things change. I no longer have my parents and one of my sisters. The only one I have left of my birth family is my one remaining sister, Kelly. Is it hard to be the only surviving child? I bet you miss your family.
@wildrose_2 Yes, it hit me much harder than I expected. Being the only surviving member is difficult. I am so much younger than my siblings (15 and 18 yrs) that I was pretty sure I would be the only survivor at some point. Besides my birth family, each one of my parents had 8 siblings and with their spouses there were 32 all together. I was close to all of them and miss the huge family gatherings. It a new normal and I have to get used to it. Thank you for your note and understanding.
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