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@teamarea you make a great point. Focus on your own time and yourself!🤗

But I understand how @justanotherrandomgirl feels. It’s hard to want to get up when your sole focus is waiting on someone to acknowledge you. It’s so degrading and it’s a feeling that doesn’t seem to easily go away. I’m in the same position and find if I exercise I feel great, but after it’s done, I’m still thinking “Better check my phone”. And it’s non-stop. I literally needed a break from my phone and have left it an hour away in my dad’s knowing I’ll be back on Tuesday.

Honestly girl, hide your phone, disconnect from social media, give people a number they can use if they want to call you, don’t give it to him, main people such as parents etc. And just zone out for a week. Leave your phone charging and on for this week if you wish, maybe get a friend to leave it in their house. By leaving it charged and on, if this guy contacts you, he’ll be the one being iced out, without you having to do a thing!

I found out today, even though it’s back to day one, it feels more possible now because my phone isn’t in reach. Part of the addiction of wanting someone’s attention is being addicted to the medium we use too.

Couldn’t recommend this tip more missus, I hope it works for you because honestly, it feels very empowering ignoring the world. It’s just a week. You deserve it ❤

@teamarea you’re right. I kept telling that to myself, but I often end up checking my phone again. See him online and not replying to my text. And can you suggest some good music? 🙂

@gethimoutofmyhead You know after reading this a while ago, I deleted our conversation in whatsapp and deleted his number too. But after a few minutes, I checked my call log and saw his number and was tempted to check again if his online. Then I add him back. Slept for a few minutes then I tried to call him. I wasn’t even expecting him to answer, but he did! And told me to sleep cause it’s late. 😒

@gethimoutofmyhead

I’ve been here too, more than once (not just online either — I call it co-dependency, regardless of it being a romantic relationship) … and each time I learn that I have the capacity to love, and all I want is to be loved back in the same way.  Is that an expectation?? Maybe, but I also see it as something that I deserve, not only as a lovely woman, but also as a human being.  Pretty sure I’m a wee bit older than both of you, and it’s taken years to be able to say “not this time!” … life is too short to give precious moments away to someone who doesn’t appreciate Me:)

I’ve gone off the grid too, and yes it is so amazingly empowering.  I come from a generation that didn’t have cell phones and internet … actually it wasn’t until my early 40’s that I ‘discovered’ the www and I easily got swept up in it’s instant gratification. Don’t get me wrong …. I love the internet … in fact, it saved my life, but that’s a different story ahahaha ….

Try to see this as a something you need to learn … only you can decide when you move on … hugs to you both:)

@justanotherrandomgirl

Practice practice practice … and what better way than in a tub full of bubbles? Ahahaha or at the gym as gethimoutofmyhead suggested … walks in the park, reading, painting, dancing in the shower ….. find what lights you up and do it!! Who knows?  You might just run into someone who shares the same interests and ‘whatshisname’ will become a fleeting memory 😉

As for music …. it depends on how much I want to cry Lol … I love Spotify and have playlists that are my go-to’s for bubble baths … 70’s love songs to JT to Bruno Mars … after all, every girl deserves a Bruno in her life;) and a Jason Mraz for that matter hahaha … he’s got a new album out btw in case you like that kind of music.

Not to sound harsh, but only You can change the direction you’re going in …

@teamarea Thanks for sharing! I’m glad to take the advice from people who know what it is to be here, especially when you understand the whole going off the grid situation. It’s totally necessary I feel, at least sometimes!! Thank you for your nice words❤