Good night
I want my day to end without texting him good night. It’s been a couple of days when I have a regular time to text him, and I actually seldom get a reply. I’m almost tired of doing it. Tired of always being the one more interested. So I will sleep early tonight, and hopefully won’t wake up around 2am! 😅 Because I might be tempted to check my phone and text him again. Also, I’m not feeling well, so I could use this as a motivation to sleep early and rest. Haha! Good night! 😴
I’m delighted he called you! Maybe the no contact worked for you? What’s the next plan from here?
@gethimoutofmyhead I failed! I woke up at midnight and sent him a text and replied with a video message. So there goes my heart again. Haha! Why is this no contact thing so hard to do?!? Hahaha!
@justanotherrandomgirl did he reply?
@gethimoutofmyhead yeah, he replied with a video message. Then that’s all for the day. Haha!
@justanotherrandomgirl but you’re getting a response so that’s perfect!!
@gethimoutofmyhead I’m not going to contact him anymore, maybe? Unless he contacts me first. I wrote an entry about why I’m gonna do this. I had enough. 🙁
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Please forgive me if I’ve said this to you, before, I’ve had some health issues that have messed with my memory.
Every time you text someone like this person you’re texting, you’re setting yourself up for rejection. Every time you look at your phone and haven’t gotten a message, your heart sinks like he’s just told you that he’s not interested.
i hate to say it, but that’s because he’s likely not. If he’s not giving you the attention you crave, now, what do you think is going to change that?
I don’t mean to sound harsh, but I’ve read back through a bit, and it really sounds like you’re guilt tripping him.
Youll feel so much better about yourself if you stand up tall and demand to be treated better. Not by screaming or making threats, but by rejecting him until he comes begging for you. And if he doesn’t, then at least you’ll have your pride.
Love yourself, Sweetie, or no one is going to love you the right way. Trust me, I know.
@oniongirl Thanks for taking time on reading my entries and for your advice. And you’re right. Every time I text him, more of me thinks that he’s not going to reply and it breaks my heart. I’m not sure as to how I am guilt tripping him as I haven’t really tried not contacting him. I tried, but I can’t do it. You know that feeling when he tells you something, but you don’t know if you’re to believe it or not? I’m confused myself. Paranoid? I don’t know. Haven’t been interested with someone for a very long time, so the feeling is somehow new for me. Failing to realize that I’m more than this. Thanks for reminding me to love myself. 🙂
@justanotherrandomgirl, it was from your entry titled Text #5 that I thought sounded like a guilt trip.
Not contacting him is your best option, really. Then you’ll know that either he cares about you, or he just wants to keep you interested because he needs the attention.
Dr. Phil always says, “You have to teach people how to treat you.” By hanging on despite his broken promises and complete lack of effort, you’re teaching him that you don’t expect anything better than that. I know it’s hard to set those boundaries. I was in my 40’s before I figured it out. But I’m hoping that by sharing some of my experience and wisdom with you, you might not to have to wait that long.
@oniongirl Hehe Don’t worry, I did not send him any of those texts. He doesn’t have to know about it. 🙂 But, I swear, I tried no contact. I stilk fail, then try again. Thanks for sharing your wisdom. It’s good to know that there are people who cares. 🙂
@justanotherrandomgirl, I don’t just care, I’ve been there. That’s how I’ve learned these things. 💖
@oniongirl @justanotherrandomgirl that’s called not getting your hopes up when you contact him and he doesn’t get back to you and after a while you don’t expect him to but when he finally does you’re over the moon and you instantly forgive him because he has more going on than you do.
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