What your tears do

Not to get too personal but what is your reaction to someone crying, in particular to something you said or did? I only ask this since Cindi and I were talking about this the other night and we disagreed on my exact reaction. I said it stressed me out and Cindi said my reaction was one of anger.

The whole discussion started because I was telling her about a talk with my mother the earlier in the day and my Mom started to cry when I told her I was unable to come down and help her pick up some stuff from her storage unit. Well I could her starting to cry over the phone and it did upset me. Not the fact that I made her cry, since it wasn’t being done out of spite or anything on my part. See the thing is she seems to have this expectation that I drop everything when she asks and this storage unit has stuff moved out of the house and she has had months to get stuff and hasn’t. Now suddenly it’s a priority and I’m supposed to rush right over.

But all that’s an issue for another day so back to my reaction. I guess my conundrum is how is what I’m perceiving as stress being seen as anger by Cindi and I’m sure others and is this a normal and or healthy reaction? See she was saying how her reaction was one of empathy with the person for crying but to me so many times it seem a cheap use of emotion and manipulative.  I’m not sure what the answer for this is and I’m sure we didn’t solve anything the other night but it at least was a good discussion.

The other good news of the other night was that we do have a babysitter for Friday so for the first time in a long time it’s DATE NIGHT!!!!  One little question we did have is what’s the going rate for a baby sitter?  As I said it’s been a while since we had a sitter for Ella since more often than not lately she’s been over at her friend Sophia’s but this time Sophia’s mom also has a date.

I’m actually thinking of really doing this right and getting at least a new shirt to look my best.  Plus this is the best time to be shopping since most of the summer clothes are on clearance so I can save some serious bucks.

One little work thing last night I think I had a customer who I disliked more than the flashers.  This was a guy who just reeked of booze.  Now I have nothing against a drink or two but this smell was more than just a quick stop at happy hour or a little wine with dinner.  In the end he didn’t buy which was fine with me but still I just had to bite my tongue the whole time.

Well that’s all for today, have a great day and smile.