what we want

Well, I’m gonna start with what I had tried to write yesterday, but being as not all of it applies anymore, you are never gonna know  (*evil laugh,* mwa ha ha) but not that much has changed, so its pretty much the same anyways.

So yesterday, in health class, all the boys and all the girls each listed aloud what it was that they’d like to see in a person of the opposite sex. (previously, i had actually put both lists in here, but i’ll paraphrase instead).  What a girl wants in a guy (and these aren’t all my opinions, but most of them are) includes the following; good posture; good hygiene (as represented by smell and grooming); somewhat athletic, but not a muscle-head; someone taller than me; someone who I can hold an intelligent conversation with, but not be made to feel dumb or inferior; someone that I can be comfortable with, even when we aren’t talking; someone who can make decisions; someone who can give me options when he doesn’t want to make a decision; someone who is romantic; someone who can both plan ahead and be spontaneous; someone who can be funny and immature, but knows when to be serious and mature; someone who’s not afraid to make a fool of himself for my sake; someone who will be honest with me, but knows when it’s OK to tell a “white lie”; someone who will put me before his friends; someone who will be completly devoted to me without being clingy. This is the list that we compiled in class, but I would also like to add a few of my own personal preferences– I want someone who can cook, who can sing, and who is at least willing to try to dance.

As I previously mentioned, the boys also made their own list. Essentially what they want amounts to the following– they want someone who: will be nice (not bitchy); will not keep tabs on them, or test their loyalty; will not expect a mind-reader; is easy to talk to; is trustworthy/can keep a secret; will not flirt with or spend one-on-one time with other guys while dating; has common sense/ isn’t a ditz; is able to make decisions; will give honest opinions (possible brutal honesty is OK); has long hair (not crew cut or shaved head); is adventurous and spontaneous; and will be the girl that he can bring home to mom.  In an IM conversation, Alex also pointed out to me that it is necessary to have reciprocity. In other words, both people must share the same level of commitment, and put as much into a relation ship as you get out of it.

Speaking of Alex… he perfectly fits all the requirements for what girls want, and even for what I, personally want. So why do so many people like him remain single, and  girls such as myself continue to date assholes who honestly couldn’t care less about my feelings, or what I want, but make sure that they get what they want, and if they don’t, then they leave. Why?? Because some girls are intimidated by a guy who is everything they’ve ever wanted— they’re afraid that if they get him, they’ll fall in love with him, and promptly lose him and be heartbroken forever and ever.

Well I did at one time meet a guy like that, and I fell in love with him, and then I lost him, and I was heartbroken– but it didn’t last forever… but since then I havn’t dated anyone…

I think I’m ready to have another go at it…  *wink*