son

Well, my son is hanging around with a girl who has stalkers. She wants him to come protect her. It worries me a little. Son is big and strong and I doubt anyone would mess with him, but still. Stalkers can be so weird. This girl has had to put a restraining order on one guy, and now she has someone that is as old as her dad stalking her, and she calls my son to come hang out while she is at work so she doesn’t have to be alone. she works in a coffee shop that you drive through and she is the only one there.

Son really likes her and wants to ask her out. He has been planning on asking her to a dance, but he doesn’t dance. So he is unsure how to go about this. He has not dated and claimed he would not date. Now he wants to date so he knows what to do when “the right one” comes along.

He wants to talk to his sister as she dated a couple guys before one that seems like the right one has come along. and he wants to talk to the guy she is dating. he didn’t date nuch until he started dating dau. he is 23. We saw them this weekend, but son didn’t get a chance to talk to either one of them much. it was a busy weekend. I was wishing son and dau’s bf could have bunked together so they could talk. oh well.

I understand where son is coming from. I hope he can talk to these older ones so he can get some good advice. I am at a loss as to what to tell him. Dau and I could communicate well about these things. Son and I have difficulty talking about serious things.

It will be so different having both kids gone next year as they are SO much a part of my life, my prayers, everything. I know beyond a doubt they don’t NEED me and that is a good thing. They are both competent, responsible (most of the time) young people. If my son had to be more responsible, he would be. He will be when he leaves. It is just that he lives at home and he doesn’t ‘have to’ take care of everything, so he doesn’t. sigh. I look forward to him moving out and growing up some. It did dau a LOT of good. She has gotten so much more responsible and independent. I love it. Except her bf takes care of so much for her. Next year he will be gone and she will be there, so she may have to learn all over again how to take care of certain things. She will have 2 more yrs. Bf has basically told her he wants to marry her and take her w him, but she has full ride scholarships plus where she is that will not transfer, so it would not be wise to leave that behind. Plus she does have a lot of growing up to do. Even tho I say they are competent and all that, they have a lot of growing up to do. I think their relationship can sustain 2 yrs of him living somewhere else. It will not be easy, but if he thinks it is worth it, he will wait. She thinks he is worth it, but will wait to make sure….. good plan.

faith hope and love, but the greatest of these is love.