resolved except for the feelings

I want to thank mauimama and motherofthree for your avid support. I would give you her number, but it got resolved. I asked hub to call his mom and see what was up. i pointed out the obvious and he wasn’t so sure, but agreed that was a tacky thing to do. anyway, he said, they are NOT having a family reunion on dau’s wedding day. Whew.

Dau said her grandma called and apologized, wanting to make it right. grandma was in on it too. no idea whose idea it was, supposing more it was SIL’s but could have been grandma’s if she just wasn’t thinking.

The good news is that the family reunion for Labor Day is cancelled! And if it isn’t, I am not going anyway.

I haven’t heard, but I seriuosly doubt SIL apologized. If it were me, I guess I would be embarrassed.

Basically, my take on it now officially is “we are cancelling the family reunion because everyone will see each other at the wedding.” There. That wasn’t so hard, was it? Why could it not be presented that way.

Dau was telling me about it (before it got resolved) and she said she wasn’t going to be there and, “I am going to do things according to the timing I select. Reunion or no reunion, we are going to open the gifts when we decide to.” You go girl!

FINALLY, I got an invitation in the mail! They got them done! AND they are so cute! They made them themselves (I think) and I have never seen any cooler. I am a bit biased. I had to call her and tell her how beautiful they are! So, if I got mine, everyone else will be getting theirs.

Dau said in email that they got A LOT done today, and they are hoping to devote next week to seriously shopping for an apt to live in. I do wish they would just do that immediately, but hey. At least they got the invitations out.

So, no, I have not talked to SIL. I am going to pretend it never happened. If she brings it up, I am not sure what I will say. If she apologizes, I will reassure her that everyone makes mistakes, they just weren’t thinking. I wonder if that will go over well. I don’t want to say, oh that is OK cuz it is not. Feelings are still a bit touchy here. I know I should just forgive and forget, but I am tired of the condescension I get from BIL anyway. SIL is pretty pleasant, but my BIL is so arrogant. I hate it.

One time we were talking and I said something that maybe was a little bit obvious, and he acted like that was the dumbest thing to say. I remember getting up from the group who were sitting at the table and saying excuse me for saying anything at all. he kind of backed off and wanted me to explain myself. Over my dead body. I just said, it is not important. I am sorry I said anything at all. Since then I just don’t talk much for fear of being made fun of, so to speak. I can rise above it because I think it is so rude, but hey, I don’t want to deal with it anyway. he is that way to dau too and dau is living with them until the wedding. I wish I were there. Sort of. Can’t wait til she is out of there.

one of the ppl invited to the shower has very little money and SIL gave her the bedroom. Now the only things registered for are very expensive, and what do you get someone for the bedroom? So I called and traded her. I have the pantry. This gal still didn’t know what to do, but I said, what about food items? So she got all excited and said she was going to go to goodwill and get a nice basket and some ribbon and put food items in it. She was so pleased. So was I. What a disaster! Poor thing. She is such a sweet, though funny, person. I hate to make her feel so put out. But it sounds like she is enjoying the creativity of a new project. She just called (long distance) to see what dau’s colors are. LOL. They don’t really have colors. So she asked what her favorite color was and I told her. what a dear.

I think SIL doesn’t maybe realize that there are people who really struggle to make a dime and every penny counts. SIL has beaucoup money, came from money, her dad helps them at every turn and she and her hub make very good money too! They own a mansion (but the dumb thing is that if they have a party, there is NO parking. They have a skinny driveway up a long, long hill and a very narrow road they live on besides. And heaven forbid anyone drive on the grass. Forget that. I would take a small house with the ability to entertain ppl who could get in and out more easily. Thankfully we live by a school. When school is in session, there is NO parking, but when school is out there is parking everywhere! I hate parent teacher conference evenings tho. No parking to be found, and I have even come home to someone in my driveway so I couldn’t park there! How weird is that? I should have just parked there anyway, but I parked a couple blocks away and walked home. Big deal. But who does that? WHo parks in someone’s driveway? Oh well.

Anyway, so now I get to be tacky and give dau something for the bedroom that MIL and FIL gave us a few years back. A wonderful beautiful feather quilt that I am allergic to. We slept with it 2 nights and I woke up choking because I cuoldn’t breathe. I put it away then thinking that dau would get it when she gets married. So, with all the headache I am just giong to give that to her at the shower since we leave tomorrow.

faith hope and love, but the greatest of these is love.