nephews

i have two nephews that live in our town. one went to school her last year, and one just moved here the beginning of this school yr. the older one really enjoyed having the younger one not be here last year. he seemed to do well. the younger one is annoying and always says derrogatory things about his older brother, and i wouldn’t want him around either. i like both boys, but it has to be hard to live with that.

so the older brother spends a lot of time away from home, and will not take the younger brother anywhere he doesn’t have to. the younger one comes to our house to eat lunch cuz he is new, doesn’t know anyone, and his brother leaves him in the dust. i even mentioned to the younger one that the reason older one leaves him in the dust is becuase he annoys him on purpose. he should know that.

anyway, these boys’ dad is rarely home. he just got married over memorial day. the dad thought that once they got married he would be home more. his gf/fiancee was out of town and the dad had to always go see her. in fact, she didn’t even want to move here when they got married, but her house sold, so she did. well, the dad is still never home. the dad and new wife leave the boys home. granted the older one can drive, but it is still not good.

this weekend the dad was going to take the boys to something fri night and i thought, finally, he is doing something with his boys. but, no, then i heard hub was taking them. i called hub to find out and he said, no but the dad left them behind cuz dad and new wife had to go out of town to talk to someone about building a new house. they talked to this person a month or two ago and got into a fight so they couldn’t decide anything at that time. but, now, they have to go talk again, just when the dad wanted to do something with his boys. maybe i am reading things into this but she has come out and said that he treats his boys better than he treats her. i don’t see it. i see he neglects spending time with his boys in leiu of spending time with her. he gets to do less with his boys now that he is married than he did before! which is very sad.

anyway, my hub has kind of taken them under his wing a bit. he took them to a game last night. he took them to something else today. but they bicker. and my son is a yr older, and he sometimes goes along. they wanted to go to something else, but the older one is going to hang out with a 30 yr old today. i know this guy and he is not a good role model. i feel bad, cuz the dad isn’t home, and the kid is going to look up to this 30 yr old guy who has serious issues. but hub took the younger brother and son to do something cuz the two boys were so at each other all the time. it is bad. dig, dig, dig. the younger one just says demeaning things about the older one all the time, and the older one does it some. he is just sick of it. but hanging out with an older man like that concerns me. he already hangs out with kids who have troubled lives. that is one thing, but an older guy becomes a role model. the dad doesn’t have time for him, so find another dad type of guy. ew.

well, i am proud of my hub for taking time this weekend to do stuff with the boys. it is funny, we even call them the boys. they have always been “the boys” to us and if anyone in the family says that we all know who they mean, even though there are 4 brothers in one family, two in another, one in ours and two in “the boys” family. last yr the older one wanted to hang out with my hub, but this year it is like if his younger brother is there, he wants to hang out with someone else. how sad.

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