Vacation Day 5

We spent another day with my dad and grandparents. My dads new wife takes care of my grandpa normally but she called out sick today. Today wasn’t quite as fun as yesterday since she didn’t show up for work. It’s hard for my grandma to do anything with my grandpa, he won’t cooperate with her. My grandma says it’s because he was raised to believe the man is in charge, so having his wife in charge isn’t something he likes. It’s kind of sad because my grandpa never wanted to not be able to take care of himself, I mean, who does really, right? He was always afraid to quit working because he was afraid to slow down out of fear that he’d end up like his dad, with Alzheimer’s and everything.

I saw my aunt today, she took us over to her place and showed us her chickens and her cats and dogs and stuff. She’s got one dog that her vet said was half coyote, it’s not all that friendly. It’d only come up to me if I wasn’t looking at it and sniff me. It made me a little nervous because it looked pretty wild, certainly not the kind of dog I’d trust around my cats but it hasn’t been a problem around her cats.

My grandma asked me today if I thought my grandpa would be as bad as he is. They were all telling me before we went out there that he was pretty bad, I guess they thought I’d be upset by it. I just, I don’t know, I’ve never really had that much trouble dealing with things like this, to me it’s just life running it’s course. I’ve known my entire life that eventually I’m going to lose my grandparents, and that my grandpa would probably end up with Alzheimer’s. It’s just, I don’t know, I just don’t look at things like other people do, I have some really great memories and I don’t really have any regrets or anything. Sure, it’s hard seeing him like this but I don’t have nearly as many problems as everyone else does, my dad can’t hardly be around him it makes him so upset.

We went to my moms today, we decided to let her babysit Sara while we went out to dinner with my dad. We’ve never actually left her alone with anyone. We’ve left her alone at other people’s houses and stuff in her crate, just not out of her crate which is how it was tonight. They said she was just pitiful, she waited at the door when we left and stuff. My mom said she followed her all around the house, even to the bathroom. That and she went all around the house sniffing everything. That’s our Sara, she has to follow whoever is up and she has to inspect every inch of every house we go to.

It’s too bad we can’t afford a second dog right now, I think Sara would be a lot better off if we had another dog to play with. She was having a blast playing tug of war with my grandma’s dachsunds and stuff. I can definitely see a lot of bonus’s to getting two goldens if you can afford it, they’re so active.

Sara seems to be over her submissive peeing!!!! I think this trip was just what she needed! She’s been running up to new people and dogs happy and wagging her tail instead of all nervous and submissive. She hasn’t needed her diaper all day, even when we went into my moms house, which was somewhere she’s never been. She was just ready to meet and greet!! That’s such a big relief, that’s such an embarrassing problem. I think this trip has really booster her confidence, she’s met a ton of new people and dogs and stuff. It’s definitely been really good for her. If this peeing thing is really over we’ll be able to take her anywhere, right now we just kind of try to stick to dog people that understand if she had an accident.

Tomorrow we’re going to the aquarium with my mom and step-dad. That should be fun, I love aquariums, I can literally spend all day there. 🙂

Anyway, I should probably go for now. My dad was supposed to come by the hotel tonight but I don’t know if he’s going to. He’s been fighting with his new wife a lot, I think they were in the middle of an argument when I called a little while ago. I don’t know why he can’t get along with anyone, I know it’s not entirely his fault, she’s not perfect either. I have a feeling they’ll be divorced in the next few years. He always says the same thing, “She was really sweet when we first got together then she turned into a bitch”. *sigh* I don’t know why he keeps getting married. This is his 3rd marriage. I’ve promised myself I’ll only ever get married once so I knew I better pick the right one the first time. I mean, I don’t have a problem with people who get divorced I just don’t want to. I think I did pick the right one. 🙂 We get along great, we haven’t had an argument in over two years. We don’t bicker like most couple’s. We just get along, these road trips are great because we just sit in the car and talk about different things, how people are in different places, we analyze people and figure them out. We talk about life and politics, religion, problems in the world, we come up with all our own theories and stuff. We can go on and on for hours. Half the time we don’t even have the music going because we’re too lost in conversation. When there is a problem, like if one of us is upsetting the other one we sit down and talk it out before it has a chance to blow up. We both want the other person to be happy and we don’t get offended when the other one of us says “Hey, this thing you do is really making me crazy, can we work on it?” It’s just so easy to work things out. I realize how lucky we are looking at a lot of other people. It just seems so simple to me though. Don’t let things get to a point where you’re flat out angry, talk before it gets to that point and never, ever forget why you fell in love with your partner. Of course, that won’t work for everyone, people do grow apart and shit happens.

Oh yeah, I just remembered, when we got to my moms she gave us all my presents. oh man did she get me a ton of stuff. She got us some cute golden retriever stuff, statues and stuff. She got me some beanie kitties, some Calico Kitty statues, a my little pony for my collection. She got us a wooden thing to hang outside that says “The Niles Zoo”. She got a couple things with hubby in mind, a puzzle with a dragon and a wizard and she also got a musical dragon statue that plays “The Entertainer”. She got a ton of stuff for us, it felt like Christmas morning, lol. I told her that I wouldn’t be able to fit all the stuff she wanted me to take since she got me so much stuff, lol. But then she said I could leave some of my stuff there, like the word processor and stuff, it’s buried in the closet anyway and she said we could get that stuff next time. *shrugs* a couple months ago she was saying if we didn’t take all the crap she’d put it out by the curb. I guess she’s gotten over it since she’s finished her cleaning.

Anyway, I should really shut up.