dear high school girls

Do not settle. Do not under-sell yourself. Do not date a guy to simply date – have high standards. High standards for how he treats you, high standards as far as mutual respect, high standards for intelligence.

To clarify, treating you well does not in any way include buying things for you, and if you think that is the definition then perhaps you’re just not ready to date.

I was reading back through more entries (I was really young once), and the junior year prom / Andy debacle came up. I really truly did like Andy, or at least the thought of Andy, and we did have a physical chemistry. But I truly believe that Andy never “got” me – never actually respected me in the way I would expect. This is not to say he didn’t respect me at all, but our worlds were different and I don’t think he viewed girls as much more than… a girl. And let’s face it, Andy just is not at the level of intelligence I require. I made the right decision 7 years ago – I did not settle. (God was it really 7 years ago?)

So, ladies out there – I know it’s easy to get caught up in the desire for a boyfriend, or for companionship in general. I was the same way. But you have to believe me – settling is not the way to go. Start standing up for yourself, for your personality, for your likes and dislikes. Start standing up for yourself – you ARE smart, despite how society has taught you to act. You deserve a lot. (And never forget that your eventual significant other deserves just as much. This is a mutual deal.)

That’s all I have to say.

(indecision)