90’s 90210
I grew up watching Beverley Hills 90210- I was only 8 in 1990. But I lived in New Zealand so I think by the time it made it to NZ I must have been at least 11 of 12, I recall watching at least seasons 1-5 before I moved on to something else.
Clearly, with Luke Perry passing away this week, this had got me thinking about those times. I do remember watching this show a little 11 year old me and thinking, I can’t wait to get into high school and date boys and have friends like what I saw in that show.
I wasn’t the pretty girl in high school- I was the fat girl. Or well a little bit chubby girl at least back then. I went to all girls school, but we did hang out with boys. And at 16/17 i had my own click of guy friends.. As I sit here at 36 I wonder what they are doing. I miss their friendships.
Over the years I have done things that perhaps I shouldn’t have. I got over-involved or injected myself into situations so I could be part of the drama
And now I think what I was doing was trying to play out friendships like I saw on TV, It sounds so insane. But my moral code was based on what I saw on this TV show. I thought that friendships could and would be like that.
One of my guy friends looked like Jason Priestley, and as I rewatch Beverley hills 90210- I can’t help but think of him. And how much I really loved that friendship
His name was Alex – You see in my late 20’s he was living in Melbourne and I was living in Sydney. He has this new girlfriend and met her a handful of times, and Alex and I talked all the time. to cut a long story short… she has called me and told me he was drinking to much and then he had hit her. And she asked for my help, so I called him and said do you want my help…or do you want me to ignore this. As teenagers Alex had told me that his dad was a major alcoholic, and so were his two older brothers and that he never wanted to end up like that.
So after 7 hours on the phone with him, I talked him into telling his mother that needed help and to go to rehab. I offered to fly him to Sydney so he could detox. But then he changed his mind. And he told me that I had over involved myself in his life and that he didn’t have a problem. And he never wanted to speak to me again.
I am not sure what happened after that – but no doubt I didn’t just leave it at that, I am sure I tried to ‘solve’ the problem by telling my other guy friends to talk to him. I think I then talked to his now ‘ex’ girlfriend and his mother… and I have just looked back at my email, YES.. there it is in black in white me reporting to his mother…
years went past and the next time I talked to Alex was when his dad died from alcohol-related things.. I heard about it through a friend and I reached out to him. He took my call and I said I missed his friendship and he said, Thank you so much for your call I miss you too. But I can’t let you in like I used to.
I remember it hurt to have him say that…. I think we talked once more after that and then a few years later I think wrote him an email or a facebook message he replied but then he cut me, not just cut me but blocked me from social media.
I was trying to apply TV show logic to a real-world problem and tried to have it play out. But it didn’t instead I lost an important friendship.
I miss him… Like really miss him.. I loved him.. it hurts
I wonder does he miss my friendship too? Does anyone who I have playout my Beverley hills 90210 TV logic miss me as I miss them?