Then vs. Now

I’ve been floating around reading a lot of other people’s diaries, (boy, I love this place!), and I’ve come to some conclusions about the significant number of lousy marriages I’m encountering. I don’t know if it’s me but, both in and out of the net, I find there are a lot more crumby marriages than good ones. After reading stuff and talking to people and doing a lot of thinking (as well as examination of my own marriage — which is a good marriage but not a perfect marriage), I’ve come up with some theories. Here is a little list of things the way they are when you were first dating and the way they are after a decade or two of marriage. See what you think…

Then

Now

He would do anything just to see her smile
— that was enough

He doesn’t really care if she’s smiling,
he just wants to f**k.

She was a sex machine

She’s just a machine

He wanted to take her out to dinner and spoil her

He doesn’t want to go out once he gets home from a hard day’s work and thinks she should get her lazy a** into the kitchen

She was interested in his music/movies/ideas even if they sort of bored her

She just doesn’t understand his complex needs and interests.

He was interested in her thoughts/dreams/musings even if they sort of bored him

He just doesn’t understand her complex mind and spirit.

He spent time and trouble anticipating her happiness when she opened the present he had selected for her

It’s Christmas Eve and he’s scrambling for any old thing that’ll do.

She spent time and trouble slipping on sexy lingeree to tempt and please him

Those flannel pajamas not only keep her warm but also cover her nipples in front of the kids

He thinks he looks pretty good and that she’s downright sexy!

He thinks he looks pretty good and that she’s put on some weight and aged a bit too much.

He’s patient with her in his loving efforts to please her.

He’s p**ssed off at her unreceptiveness if he can’t please her.

To her, he comes first

To her, he kids come first

To him, she comes first

to him, he comes first

He’s happy with their sex life

He’s sex starved

She’s happy with their income

She’s dependent on his income

He looks sexy and whatever he does turns her on.

The principal and the pediatrician look sexy and what ever they do turns her on.

She looks sexy and whatever she does turns him on

The woman in the next office or at the convention center look sexy and whatever they do turns him on.

She’s proud of him when they’re out in public. He’s debonair and charming

His shirt pulls apart at the belly and he snaps at her when she acts ditzy at the check out counter.

He’s proud of her when they’re out in public. She’s slim and attractive.

Her shirt is the size of a Coleman tent and she treats him like an idiot at the check out counter.

There’s got to be more… let me think of them… add some in your comments even. This ought to be fun!