some men think they are soooo sneaky!

It used to be that if a guy decided to hit on me, he would make it completely obvious he was interested by either complimenting me somehow or immediately asking if i had a boyfriend or if i was single. Then of course I’d turn him down as politely as I could because I am not looking to date.  Guys you have to realise that we aren’t all lying to you when we say we want to be single. Some of us have better things to do than to worry about finding a boyfriend okay?

Well…..as of lately it seems men have found a way to try and maneuver around getting turned down by asking the "hang out" question or the "friends" technique.
What is the "hang out" question and friend technique? Well I am about to tell you my own interpretation of what these two things are. Eh hem.

When using the "hang out" question, instead of automatically asking a girl out, the guy goes "Hey! I was just wondering if you wanted to hang out sometime?" The reason , i realise, why a guy asks that question is because when they say "hang out" they know that to us women, hanging out is what friends do and hanging out is a lot safer than dating. So pretty much we are more likely to say yes and they think they are the shit. *rolls eyes*

The other reason men like to use the "hang out" question, is in case a woman says straight out "oh I am not looking to date right now" they can defend themselves and say "Um okay? I was only looking to be friends in the first place." In order for them to not feel like a loser and try to make the woman feel that she was wrongly making an assumption, but guys…we know better than that come on.  Some guys have mastered the "hang out" question technique, where others still have a lot to learn.

For instance, for cinco de mayo I went out for drinks at a bar with my friend katie and her friend jessica. we noticed that the bouncer kept coming over to the table to talk to us and when I went to the bathroom he asked katie and jessica if i was single. they said that i was but that i was not looking for a boyfriend. they told me this when i got back and i said i agreed that it was the right thing for them to say. ANYWAY…as we were leaving the bouncer approached me and said "Hey um, look i’d really like to take you out sometime."
I was confused because this guy was already told that I wasn’t looking to date, but I said it to him anyway "Yeah man I’m sorry, but I am not looking to date right now…" Then he said "Oh that’s okay! I’m not looking to date either!"

Guys, if you forget to use the "hang out" question in the beginning, then you cannot back track! If you make it obvious you are interested you cannot change your mind in the next setence! That is damn confusing! Also, if you tell a girl you would like to take her out, and then say that you aren’t looking to date or get a girlfriend, then what are you saying? Are you saying you are just looking for sex? Because that is the question that was running through my mind right at that second. Taking me out is not a friendship kind of thing. What an idiot.

Either way, if you are a guy, and you use the "hang out" question" we know what you are up to. We aren’t stupid. Even if we agree to hang out, in the back of our mind we know there is motive, we know that you are not looking to be just friends and knowing this, we still take that chance because many women would love to have more guy friends or be able to feel like  "one of the guys" for once.

I agreed to hang out with a nice guy from work. We will just say his name is george. so george asked me to hang out and i made the mistake of just saying yes instead of abrubtly saying that I wasn’t looking for a boyfriend. i went over to georges house where we talked, played cards and just chilled. he didn’t make a move on me, didn’t compliment me , nothing.  this was a sign to me to clear my mind of any suspicions of him liking me. so when the weather was nice and george asked me if i wanted to go on a hike with him of course i agreed! we were having lots of fun and then near the end of our adventure he put his arm around me….boy was i wrong. of course i told him what the diddly was and he acted very surprised!

I mean come on guys, we are damned if we do and damned if we don’t? If you are going to use the "hang out" question technique theres a pretty big chance that the girl is only hanging out with you to HANG OUT. arg!

So there you have it folks. Am I right? Am I wrong? 

Now the heres the friends technique, which I happened to experience today! I think it is a little bit more stupid then the "hang out" question, but here it is.

A guy asks me if he can talk to me for a minute. He introduces himself, asks for my name, make a short comment on whatever I was doing, and then gets to the point of asking if he could have my number. This is usually what men do if they interested in a woman right? Well the key factor here is that he did not tell me WHY he was asking for my number, even though it is quite obvious. I told him "Hey that’s sweet of you to ask, but I am not looking to date right now." and he sort of did the whole backwards hang out mistake thing, but totally denied his interest by saying "Oh no I’m not looking to date right now either, I was just thinking you looked like a nice girl and I thought maybe we could chill, be friends!"

RIGHT…..Guys let me ask you this. Do men randomly make effort to get a girls number if his only thought was "oh i’d like to be her friend!" unless he is gay?  I mean seriously.

So i looked this guy straight in the eye and I said "You honestly expect me to believe that you approached me for my number for the purpose of only wanting to be friends?"

He said "Dang girl you’re harsh! No really that’s the truth! I’m just looking to meet new people!"

uh huh……..

I said "well in that case, you are the first straight guy i’ve ever met that makes friends with girls by randomly approaching them and asking for their number…" I gave him my digits and he smiled.

Later I got a text from him saying "hey pretty lady, just texting you my number so you can save it in your phone ;-)"

*rolles eyes*

I texted back "okay sure thing"

he replied "we probably won’t ever chill huh"

I responded "Honestly I am a very busy girl and barely get to see my friends as it is, so if I have any spare time I will most likely spend it with them. you’ll definitely see me from time to time at the gym though!"

he texted "I feel yu"

Guys, if it is obvious that a girl is not looking to date, or have a boyfriend, why still make the effort to get her number? do you think you can change her mind? what is the point?  i don’t get it. *shakes head*

Well that is the end of my little shpiel. i’m going to bed. goodnight

the end