SIL Update and such

Sil is doing as well as she can be.  I think she’s officially done with it all and finally focusing on what is good for her.  As much as the stunt her husband pulled with taking the kids away for a week stunk, I think it was for the best.  I think it especially helped to finally let his family go as well since she was still so attached to them.  It really helped put it all in perspective on how done she is with it all.  

She’s in the anger phase but that’s good.  She needs to let all that toxic feeling out after ten long years.  She is walking away from the house at this point and she is especially fuming that through all this ordeal no one seemed to show any concern that she was homeless for almost 6 weeks.  She’s leaving him there and basically informed him that he can take over all the payments – the mortgage, the utilities, etc.  It will be interesting to see how he manages that.  

She found herself an apartment less than 3 miles from work and transferred her son to the school there.  She is done with the driving miles around and trying to coordinate it all.  Life will become much simpler in a couple of weeks.  I think apartment living will do her some good by letting go of the responsibility of keeping up a home.  She can worry about her own space and focus on herself and the kids.  

It looks he is going with the flow at this point after SIL laid down the law and even sharing at one of their counseling sessions the countless horrible things he’s done.  So many that he just didn’t have anything to say (probably because he can’t dispute it).  I hope he’ll decide to make it easier for everyone, especially the kids. 

Hubby is currently down there.  He drove down this afternoon to help her move some things from the house into her new place.  I think some one on one time as siblings will be good for them.  I hope the visit does her well.

Since hubby is down there this week, I’ll be flying solo at home with the kids.  It should be good since we have school and routine.  When hubby was gone last month for business, the week flew so I expect it to happen again.  I’m busy working on my new blog as I sort through post ideas plus I have a book to read and a stack of puzzles.  i should be quite busy.  Let’s just hope the kids and I stay on good terms.  🙂