TO GO OR NOT TO GO

This morning I got a phone call that my best friend’s cousin died in Montreal. I have known him all my life. My friend who is here and was my best friend’s hubby may be going if he can get a ticket.  Now the question is whether or not I should go home for the funeral. Is this a message? I was thinking of going home and maybe just maybe this is my answer??????? I would visit my dying friend. I would see my grandchildren. I would visit my friend in Ottawa who is having his leg amputated maybe right as I type. I would go to Toronto to visit my SIL and BIL there. Hubby, of course, said I don’t have to go or shouldn’t go. Is it because he doesn’t want to go? He wasn’t close to these people. If I do go should I just go for the funeral and come right back? So many decisions.  My friend here went bowling. He’ll be home at 12. Maybe then I will make my decision. Is it OK to leave my hubby for about five days? Probably! OY!!!!!!!! I am not sure what to do. My gut instinct is to go home although I never would have thought about it if my friend from here wasn’t going.

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December 5, 2011

of course it’s okay to leave your husband for 5 or even more days. he’s a big boy. he can take care of himself for the time you are gone… if you go. think about this… how will you feel if you don’t go. if it will be okay…. then, don’t bother going. take care,

December 5, 2011

gray tabby has good advice. I agree with what she wrote!!

Oh, dear friend, what a difficult decision you have before you! I think your heart has been telling you all along that you would feel better making an appearance in Canada. You may not need Hubby’s blessings to make the trip, but I’ve a feeling Hubby may need some reassurance and love from you before you go. Guys tend to be stoic and rather than saying he doesn’t want to be alone, without you, he may just seem indifferent or callous to your concerns, without meaning to.

Difficult; there are arguments on both sides, aren’t there. Best wishes for making the right decision. RYN: Thank you for your comment. I agree with you, hope the channel does air the show, but it may depend on sponsors. Who knows?

December 5, 2011

If you want to go, go. If you don’t want to, then don’t go. Your husband has no say in the matter.