STILL VERY UPSET AND STRESS

I am still very upset about my trip to Montreal and my "experience" at my son’s home. I wrote them this morning that I arrived and wrote simply that I was sorry about what happened. I am not sure if I will write my DIL and talk about what happened or not. My son emailed me that he was sorry too.
I just can’t understand and or accept why this generation has to live with so much stress. I am just SICK about the stress in my son’s house. Of course many other homes are living with the same stress for the same reasons. I know that both parents have to work. I don’t know what the answer is. Maybe some parents handle it better. I BEG THE PARENTS WHO ARE STRESSED OUT TO THINK CAREFULLY ABOUT HOW THEY CAN CHANGE THE ATMOSPHERE IN THEIR HOMES. It is NO way to live. Of course some stress is inevitable and even healthy but stress every day is unhealthy for the whole family.

Ask yourself some questions…………

1. Do we both have to work? Maybe figure out carefully your expenses. How much expense is devoted to childcare and clothes and transportation needed because you work. How about fast food or prepared food because there is no time to prepare meals? 
2. Are there expenses that can be eliminated? Do you need the large house? After all no one is probably there ALL day! Would you need two cars if one of you stayed home? I understand that not all families have a large home and two cars. I guess I am thinking about the families I come in contact with.
3. Does your house really have to be SUPER CLEAN??????? If you have children forget it. Try to enjoy your home. Yes you want it "clean" so no one gets sick but there should be a limit. Can the children have a chore or two to make things easier?
4. Are the children involved in too many activities? They probably shouldn’t be doing anything on school days. If you are all coming home late in the day then it should be a time to "relax" and not a time where one of you is driving one of the children around.
So I beg parents to think of ways to enjoy their children and to eliminate as much stress as they can. Spend some time talking together and try to decide what is causing the most stress. Maybe stuff can be done after the children go to bed. Maybe stuff can be done on weekends.
If you come home stressed too often think about stopping for a coffee and relaxing before you bring that stress home.