SO MANY MiXED EMOTIONS
Do you remember the saying? I think it was written in one of Charles Dickens books. This is the best of times; this is the worst of times. That’s how I felt about yesterday!
I picked up my grandson at school. It was raining so he didn’t get a chance to play. Instead we drove straight home which was good because there was no traffic as it was early. When we got here we made our candy houses. I had bought two boxes at the dollar store with a lot of candy. I also had chocolate, vanilla and icing with candy pieces. Anyhow we turned our boxes upside down and covered then with icing. He picked chocolate and I used the vanilla. After we put lots of icing on we started to stick the candy on. Of course we had to lick our fingers and taste some of the candy. At least if my sugar is high tomorrow morning I’ll know why. LOL! They looked so yummy!!!!!!!!!!!
Then his mother and her girlfriend came for supper. We had a delicious supper. I think we were all very comfortable. My eldest son was here too. For Mother’s Day my EX DIL gave me a photo album with the most amazing pictures of our family and my grandson of course. I was so moved, so touched. I think it is the best present I ever received. I am so emotional just thinking about it. She had pictures of my best friend with my grandson and others which were wonderful. I will always treasure this book. I know she had to put a lot of effort into creating it. It was made through IPHOTO using a Mac computer.
Maybe you’re wondering about "the worst of times???" Well she started to talk about my son(her ex). She told me that my son was giving her flak because it is his weekend and he was arguing with her about when she could see her son on Mother’s day. I can’t believe it. He was such a sensitive boy. He always tried to do what was best for his little precious son. What the hell was he arguing about? It will be Mother’s Day. He should be with his Mother!!!!!!! He told her she could only have him for four hours and it had to work in with HIS schedule. PLEASE!!!! My son I am so upset. Why would you argue about such a thing. Always think! What would be best for my son?????? NOT YOU and not your girlfriend but your little son. When he wrote me to tell me that my grandson might not be there for supper Sunday night I told him that it would be ok as I would have time for his girlfriend’s children. I am not sure what he thought when I wrote that. I don’t know what he was thinking. Did he think that he should be with us because of me? Does his girlfriend think that my son’s ex always gets her way? Did they think my grandson should be there for his girlfriend? I don’t know! Maybe I’ll bring it up on Sunday or meet with my son another time. My son is under so much pressure what with an ex, moving into a very large and expensive home, just starting a new job etc. etc. I feel sorry for him but I feel he brought it all on himself and didn’t learn from the past.
Anyhow most of the day was PERFECT! I feel a bit like a traitor having my ex DIL here but hubby and I are doing it for my grandson. I do have to start getting to know my son’s new girlfriend. She was away this week. Maybe we’ll get together next week for lunch.
My son’s life is causing us a lot of stress. Mostly I feel sad for my grandson and I feel my son is under alot of pressure. He is very different from his new girlfriend.
Tomorrow we are going to the trailer. In a way I hope my hubby decides to leave real early so I don’t have to rush. Otherwise he wants to leave by 11!!!!!!!! I can take my time getting ready and leave whenever. I am in no rush to get there. However I think I will make my DIL a chicken soup which she always LOVED. I would have made it for last night but I was too lazy! Maybe over the weekend when I have plenty of time. Then I can drop it off on Sunday for Mother’s day.
Rereading my diary I see that my earliest entries were very short. I don’t know why. Although some entries now are probably not that long either.
Anyhow time to get some more sleep.
I remember how upset you were with your DIL when she and your son were first breaking up. I am so glad you and she have developed such a warm and good relationship now! Your son IS being thoughtless, and his thoughtless might have been there all along, but you are just now seeing it because he’s showing it more! I agree that mothers should get to have their children with them on Mothers’ Day! Ihope things work out well. hugs, Weesprite
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sadly its like this often in such situations. Parents forget the needs of the child and put their own first. It helps one understand why a marriage doesn’t work – same reason – their needs seem to be more important than the needs of the partner/spouse. So sad. Hang in there, hugs P
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I think it is totally cool that you are friends with your DIL. Both of our sons are aware that we adore their wives and will always be close with them no matter what. I am HOPING that your son thought your grandson should see you on Mother’s Day.
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It’s good for you to keep a relationship with the ex-DIL for your grandson:)
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My entries are shorter lately. You know that is a lot of stress for your grandson, dealing with mom and dad apart and the new girlfriend. Love,
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But I think you have to stay out of the middle of this. Tell your DIL how happy you are to have this relationship with her but you can’t listen to complaints about your son or get in the middle of it. She will have to accept that. otherwise this will be horribly stressful for you.
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ryn: I keep thinking the same thing, but the rub is that if she fails the 7th grade, she will be 2 grades behind everyone else. She was held back in 2nd grade. I fear if that happens, she will simply want to drop out. I think we will need to look into some sort of alternative school for her, because she’s on the WRONG track. School is NOT her “thing” but then, some days I wonder WHAT is her thing? Art. Art is her thing. However, I don’t think she can get into Art school without at least graduating or a G.E.D. I don’t know… I know a lot of people who have done okay despite not doing well in high school, but it makes it a little harder, that’s for sure. A failure might help her, but… I have my doubts. rye: I think sometimes in an effort to hurt the other parent, an ex spouse will “use” the kids to do that. It’s SUCH a shame, and should be avoided at all costs, but it seems to be a pervasive thing anyway. Children should not be used in such a manner, but my mom did it to me with my dad.
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I can see why it was such a difficult day. I can’t understand how adults can act so differently when they are divorced. It is sad. I hope you can make your son see about Mother’s Day though.
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Can’t seem to leave a note on your next entry. Change is good! It gives you a feeling of freshness in your life.
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I made one of those books for M-I-L for Christmas. It cost $50. But when you think about buying an album and paying for photos to be processed in the old way, it actually is a deal.
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It’s sad when parents use the children to get back at their ex’s. You are a good mil to keep a good relationship with your ex dil.
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