RANTING AND RAVING LIKE A LUNATIC

My brother is on his four wife and has two children by the third wife. I wholeheartedly agree with this entry. :O) ~

Amen!!!!!

My children are adults now and both say they are glad we separated. It became clear that we were both better off apart. We never took it out on the kids. They have turned out to be amazing people (knock on wood).

My parents divorced after 25 years of marriage and four kids. My mom always got upset when we saw our dad. She talked bad about him but he never spoke badly of her. My parents remarried after 25 years of divorce (when my dad’s second wife died). It was a wonderful healing miracle for our family. My mom died a happy woman. I’m going to work on my own marriage. Divorce is not the solution.

I wish my parents had divorced rather than staying together. My father was/is an alcoholic and the damage that was done because my mom was too afraid to leave with three kids is still with me today. I wonder how my life would have been different if I had had a father I could rely on and trust in. It is what it is, but I don’t think there is an easy answer. I never wanted to get married because Isaw what my parents’ relationship was like. It was years before I realized all relationships weren’t like the one my parents had.

well said!!!! Go Ginger!!!!! hugs P

I think it depends on the circumstances. If the relationship is abusive, then the best thing to do is get out of it fast! In my case I wanted to try and save my marriage, but he had founed someone else. What would be the point of me trying to save a loveless marriage for the sake of my children? We all would have been unhappy. I think it was hard at the time but if you asked them now, my kids allwould say I did the right thing.

I pity kids who had to put up with fighting parents while the marriage was in place, and then continue to have to bear it after the divorce. You would think once the parents got what they wanted – away from each other – that they could at least cooperate to make life good for their kids.

You are soooooo right. I grew up as a child of divorce, and unfortunately so did my kids. Because I did, I tried to make it a lot easier for them by doing a lot of the things that you recommend. I hope their life was better than mine.

my parents divorced when i was around kindergarden or 1st grade. i spent my whole life going to 2 different houses. it definitly hurt the relationship i had with my dad in the long run cuz i always wanted to stay with mommy an never with him. it became more of an obligation to go to his house. nearly my whole life my parents didnt love each other. its simply not fair. parents dont think it will

…have any impact on the children, that as long as there is still 2 parents everything will be fine as usual. but it’s the trading children b/w houses and them not loving each other that ended up upsetting me.