QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF BEFORE YOU GET MARRIED-r
1. Are there things about your fiancee that you don’t like?
You will not change them when you are married.
2. Are you too young for marriage?
If you are under 25 probably you should wait.
3. Are you finished with school?
If you are still going to university you are not ready for marriage.
4. Are you working? Can you support a wife? hubby? children?
It costs a lot of money to have a home and children. Do you have any major debts? Wait until you have paid off those debts.
5. Do you get along with his/her family? If you don’t you will always have grief.
6. Do you share the same religious beliefs? If you don’t problems will arise along the way.
7. Can you talk about anything and everything? Communication is the key to getting along and working through problems.
8. Do you share some interests and or hobbies? Sharing a hobby will give you something to relax and do together.
I am sure there is a lot of different advice out there but these are the ones I feel are very important.
Sage Advice. 🙂
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a few of those I am unsure about…even the first one…. we cannot change someone else…we cana only change ourself and hope we influence them to want to change. Age also isn’t that black & white….I know many older couples who can’t make a new marriage work, and I know some young people who have done so. It depends alot on the individuals and whether they marry for what they can get from marriage rather than what they can put into it. hugs P
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ps…I do agree with the family thing though, although a couple doesn’t formerly marry a family, it does have a huge impact on a relationship. And I agree about the communication, definately. hugs again P
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I think marriage has become an outdated institution. The high divorce rate and all the kids being born without a baby daddy show that. If I had it to do over again I would not be in such a rush to get married. I wish I had waited longer. I advised all my daughter not to get married too young. They should have fun and play the field while they have the chance.
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I married before age 25 and WASN’T mature enough….but I didn’t really GET “mature enough” for years to come. Being married helped me gain maturity, as did having kids. As for paying off debts….we spent most of our married life running up debts and paying off debts. If we had waited until we had NO debts, we’d have only been married a couple of years, rather than the 27 years we have been married! hugs, Weesprite
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Hmmmm — I got married at 19. It hasn’t been easy, but would I have been better off to wait? I don’t think so! In a way, I think it is easier to bend a little at 19 than at 25. I actually don’t think we grow up until we marry — but everyone is so different that even that doesn’t make a lot of sense either. It is hard – impossible even — to find the right guy!
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Lots of good advice above. Re: your question about Busywoman — I searched my old emails and unfortunately I did lose her address when I changed over my internet service. We will just have to cross our fingers and hope she updates again. She has had long absences from OD before. But it looked like she was going through big changes when she last posted. I hope she’s okay.
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good ones.
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Well, I was under 25 when we got married and we are both very happy being married to eachother almost 10 years later. I just don’t agree with the age thing. Course it depends on the person, some people just never will be ready for marriage. Plus, the family thing. If he doesn’t like them either and avoids them, then it really isn’t an issue. I think numbr 7 is the most important thing! YouHAVE too communicate to eachother!
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