PATIENTLY WAITING
I am forcing myself to wait.
I am forcing myself to be patient before I do anything about my grandson.
I don’t want to make a mistake.
I would love to call my son and talk to him. I would love to hear his take on all this. He would probably have some good excuses to back up his wife.
Last night I almost got out of bed to email my ex daughter-in-law to ask her if I could take my grandson this Thursday because she has him all week. I wasn’t sleeping. I was in tears half the night.
I want ask my psychologist why I shouldn’t or couldn’t send presents to my grandson while he is at his mothers. My son told me not to by the way.
Actually I don’t want to send anything this year as the pleasure has been taken away. From what my grandson tells me he doesn’t always get what I send. OK!!!!!!! I’ve been told by my son and DIL that they have TOO much. It’s probably true!
My grandson told me that when we go out together we can’t go shopping!!!!!!!????????ARGH!!!!!!!
Sunday night I am making supper for my sons and his new in-laws. I wonder if that would be a good time to bring up the subject. I would just mention the fact that my grandson wouldn’t eat the candy I gave him at shul because he was afraid of getting into trouble……………………..
However I will do my best to stay quiet and do what the psychologist suggests.
So we’re going out for supper. It will be good to get out of the house as we’ve been in all day.
Nothing planned for tomorrow. Tomorrow night a couple is coming over to play bridge.
Have a good weekend to one and all!!!!!!!!!!
How about getting things that you and him can work together on when he visits. Like games, or special things for when he is just with you. I do not buy my grandchildren a lot, but I loved doing things with them. We have games we play, books we read together, music we listen to or I will just go outside and watch them. Corey loves to show me his basketball moves, Zach has his own things he loves todo with Granny, Desiree loves to just sit and talk. I enjoy those times. Love,
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I guess they don’t want him to get spoiled but it is taking pleasure away from you too. You DIL sounds bit controlling and selfish, but I guess there is nothing you can really do about it.
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the best gift you can give to your grandson is your time, so I do hope you are able to have him for a day more often. Meantime….hang in there and just be available to listen. hugs P
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what a child needs most in this world is someone to love them and give them a safe place to be. they need to have someone listen to them and someone who loves to spend time with them. they crave attention. i give blake my total attention when he comes over. i know he needs someone who will make him the center of their attention when he’s with them. your son just married this woman… i imagine hedoesn’t want to hear of anything bad about her. his priority should be his grandson but it isn’t if he agrees that you give to much. prayers for your grandson. take care,
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Hang in there and be careful what you say. This is a very tense situation. Your counselor should be able to give you some good suggestions. You’re smart to be patient and wait for the right opportunity.
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I read the past couple entries. Wait for sound advice. I would confront the situation but I’m generally confrontational. None of this is fair to your grandson. Spending time with him is the best gift you can give. I know that’s hard but right now, it’s all you can do. RYN: I honestly don’t think I’m a bad parent. It’s that I’m constantly attacked for whatever reason. I think it’s because I amso outspoken. I don’t let things rest. I keep thinking that if I just flew under the radar that they would stop this nonsense. I can’t do that. I have to fight every step of the way. It’s not in my nature to rest on my laurals. I just hate the idea that they think I’m a bad parent. If I was doing something wrong…I would admit it and work to fix it. I’m not afraid to do so.
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