OBLIGATIONS AND GUILTY FEELINGS
I think it is hard for me to decide between what are my obligations and what I feel guilty about NOT doing. At this stage of my life there are many of our friends and relatives who are sick. I want to help them. However lately I am feeling way too overwhelmed by it all. I have to realize I just can’t do it all. I just can’t be there for everyone even though I would like to.
I, myself, am getting older with my own problems. Besides it is so depressing!
Here’s the rundown:
My brother-in-law in Toronto was in the hospital for about a month. Of course hubby went to visit but I chose not to. I don’t speak to my SIL for whatever NOT good reason. We will see her this weekend in Toronto.
My friend in Ottawa who has been in the hospital for a few weeks or longer and has a LONG road ahead. Now that I am driving I might go visit alone or hubby will come. I do call at least once a week.
My friend is busy with her hubby in a geriatric hospital. I would LOVE to be there for her but so far I didn’t visit this week. Maybe tomorrow????
My new friend’s hubby was in the hospital and now is home.
I do have cards to send. I will definitely do it tomorrow or should I say today.
I get overwhelmed when I think of all my sick friends and then realize I just can’t be there for everyone.
I am planning a 65th birthday party for my very good friend. I think we are buying her a KINDLE.
I am so thrilled to be driving. Yesterday I picked up my dress and pants that were altered. Today I will have to pack for Toronto. Actually our wedding is in Hamilton, Ontario. After that we will spend two days in Toronto.
Yesterday I had my haircut and a manicure. My manicure doesn’t look great because I am busy doing things. I also want to paint today. Maybe I’ll wear gloves.
I think I am down one size in my clothes. I am too excited. I am doing the Wii for half hour most days.
Should I go back to bed?
I can’t believe that we are leaving for Florida in about two months. OY!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am so comfortable here.
Back to bed.
Though you have too many friends in the hospitals to visit them all, you do have phones and you have writing. For the ones that you can not be there fore, you always have that choice of sending a letter or card or a plant and or giving a call to them. Most poeple would appreciate that even if you can’t show up.
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you don’t have to visit everyone that you is sick. a card telling them you are thinking about them would be just fine. just do what you want to do, please don’t feel obligated. that will make you feel resentment. glad you are able to drive again. take care,
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When we first learned of my daughter’s brain tumor, I just didn’t know how to tell other people. I was very sensitive to the fact that news like that can be overwhelming and leave people feeling helpless (among other things). Please know that simply taking a moment to express your well wishes, either in a text message, a card, an e-mail, or a short phone call, does WONDERS for the recipient. You shouldn’t feel guilty for not being able to visit in person, or make contact more often than you can. People in those situations truly do understand. And yes, facing illness and death, especially among our peers and agemates, can be extremely depressing! It’s a natural inclination to want to shelter yourself from those feelings. In a nutshell: your feelings are normal. I think we all feel, think, react, and worry just about the same in these instances.
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I know how you feel, but of course you read my entry so you know I know….lol hugs P
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