May 31, 2005

MY STUPID HUBBY-read

I am so upset. My STUPID hubby opened my mail today. It was a private letter from a friend. What nerve! He thought it was ok. Can you imagine? I have nothing to hide but still he has absolutely NO business opening my mail. I am so angry and he doesn’t understand. He often opens mail for my daughter but usually it is bills addressed to her but he pays them. I told him he has no right to open our mail.
Once again it makes me feel like a second class citizen. It makes me think that it is always his way. It was but over the last few years I am doing more of what I want.
I don’t know how to get through to him.
I guess that is why I spend too much. It is my way of getting back at him and exerting some power. I know it is wrong but that is my only way to exert some power of my own.
If only I could live alone. I know I won’t but I have always wanted to try. He is so arrogant!!!!!!!!!!!!! ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHH!

offmychest

You could live alone if you really wanted to.

Estrella

Maybe you could get a P.O. Box? Just curious… have you ever lived alone? I know you’ve been married for many years, but wasn’t sure what you did prior to getting married. I recommend it… just not sure how you would go about it…

Can you start opening some of his so he knows how it feels? I would be frustrated too, but he probably doesn’t realize he’s doing a damn thing wrong…men!! Take care,

TheWoodsprite

June 1, 2005

Yea, they can be clueless alright! I’m really quite the female chauvinist…. a woman has to rule the roost and start drilling it into his head about who’s BOSS, early-on. But hard as it can be to start in late, I still think they can learn something new if you’re adamant enough about it. I understand your point about your shopping being a reaction to things he does. I just wrote an entry about…

…how one person’s extremism can be a reaction against someone else’s. Perhaps you could take a couple weeks or a month off and go “live” by yourself…. it would be a vacation, not really “living by yourself,” but it might be greatly refreshing for you. Good luck! hugs, Weesprite

Lily47

I agree, this crosses the line. My X used to snoop but never opened private mail. He wanted me to let him read my private letters once I’d opened them (I refused) but he never actually opened them. I think you have got to put your foot down on this one rather than getting revenge indirectly in a way that won’t change anything for you. Good luck.

Lucky Lady

June 3, 2005

Hubs opens my mail once in a while. He always says it was a mistake. Most of the mail is bills & addressed to both of us so that doesn’t bother me but personal mail does get to me if he opens it. I don’t have anything to hide either. Men.