I WONDER- (6884 entries)

 I wonder what would happen if mothers figured out if they really come out ahead financially when they work.

 

1. Pay for daycare 
2. Clothes to wear to work
3. Gas to get to work
4. "Fast" food/prepared meals because there is no time or energy to make a meal
There may be other expenses that I am missing. I just wish that more parents would consider the importance of being home to raise their young children. I just feel sad that parents have to rush in the morning and then at night to pick up and drop off their children so strangers can take care of them. Children miss out on Mommy’s love and caring. Mommies miss out on seeing their babies grow.
OK! So I am from the stone age. This can’t happen nowadays because "things" are too expensive………………. Families need a house to live in. BUT the houses are usually empty from seven to seven. How sad is that???????? Work to pay off the house all day when no one is even in the house most of the time.
So I’ll stop ranting and wait to read your point of view.

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March 28, 2012

I totally agree with you. We could go and live in the fancy part of town if I worked, but instead I feel it is much more important to stay home with my daughter. The time I have with her is more precious than any amount of money I could ever make.

Most people don’t do the math. The ‘second income’ isn’t what pays for all the ‘things.’ It merely gives the credit agencies the greenlight to offer a larger credit line. You are so right about the cost of daycare, the extra car/transportation fees, cost of insurance on second vehicle, wardrobe, lunches, take-out-food, etc. etc. generally eat up about 80% of the take-home pay.

March 28, 2012

So true. Ive thought about going back but only after my son is in school and I MUST be out of work once school is done and I know it might be impossible but not have to work weekends so I have family time. My son might drive me nuts and my house is ground zero but you know what seeming him smile or running to give me a hug or kiss is a great paycheck.

March 28, 2012

I stayed home with my kids because I choose to, I was lucky to be able to do that. Not everyone has that choice especially single moms, They have to be both dad and mom to their kids, breadwinner and nuturer, it is a tough job. I have been doing it for almost 7 years now and it is still hard even though my kids are grown up. But I am not complaining, I would do the same thing again if I had another chance.

RYN: Thanks! All the books are in print (paperback) and e-book format. I have two short stories that are not in print, but the rest are.

My dad didn’t want my mom to work. She wanted to, though. Ha!

March 28, 2012

I agree with you! My daughter Carrie has worked ever since Max was six weeks old. But this past year, the publishing company she works for has this new policy whereby she can work from home! So she is at home most days, can pick Max up from kindergarten instead of having him go to afterschool daycare, etc. It is great, and I am so glad! hugs, Nicky

March 29, 2012

I think either parent staying home is good but in my case it’s necessary. One of us has to be available. This is why families with special needs children have financial issues. Of course, we live within our means. We don’t have money to go? Fine. We don’t go out. Pete and I haven’t been out on a date in a year. We haven’t had the money. When I’m done with school and have a better paying job (hopefully), he will be home. He wants to be home with the kids. It’s not that I don’t want to be but I’ve done it for almost 13 years. He wants to now. It works.

March 29, 2012

Both my kids are in college and I choose to watch my grandkids though it’s hard at times. I don’t want them raised by strangers