I KNOW I SHOULD – ok
I know I should change my attitude. I am so fortunate in many, many ways. BUT I DON"T KNOW HOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I know I am sitting comfortably in my home in sunny Florida while thousands lost their lives, others are starving and sick. So for this minute I am grateful. But I want to ask you this. If you broke your leg does it make you feel better because someone else broke two? I am glad that my daughter wants to stay close but there is too much of a good thing. Last night I just got on the computer late at night and she comes to talk etc. I just wanted to be alone and use my computer. Don’t I have any rights too? Will I be sorry later? I don’t know but I do think I have a right to some time alone. OK!!!!!! Enough grumbling. I promise to be GRATEFUL today. Last night we went to see FOCKERS – a stupid but funny movie. Going to call a friend to go for breakfast.
Everyone needs some time to reflect & do their own thing. You are absolutely right in wanting that and needing it. Don’t feel guilty just explain it to your daughter that there are times when you need space to regroup.ryn…RedHat…our Queen is feeling the same way but there are two of us that said we’d help & give her a break.Everyone needs to help in a group like that.LuvYOU,
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You’re right–one person’s tragedy is still tragic, even if someone else’s seems “bigger.”
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I think it is a matter of setting priorities. For example, Fred and our relationship come before anything else. When my now-grown kid was little, I would tell him at times that I needed to be alone and tell him I would be available at a specific time.
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you know…it seems that my girls always wanted to talk about the time I got on the computer too…isn’t it funny how that works. Seems they think that we should just sit around all day waiting for a time that they want to talk. Be grateful…its hard sometimes but its worth it. take care of you
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It does sound like some boundaries need to be set. You have the right; don’t feel guilty about it. Speaking of guilty… I think we’re all going to have some survivors’ guilt for awhile. There are going to be aftershocks and perhaps more tsunamis, more lives lost; each time we hear about it, we’re going to feel guilty just because we’re alive. Somehow we’re going to have to cope. Hugz,
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It’s OK to rant, as long as we can keep things in perspective. I feel the same way myself many times.
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How old is your daughter? I am glad she wants to be close to you, but it is good for you to have your alone time, too.
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Book recommendations!! Yes!! “The Crone” by Barbara Walker; “The Goddesses in Everywoman” and other books on goddess archetypes by Jean Shinona Bolen; “Maiden, Mother, and Crone” by DJ Conway (or it might be Conaway); “Spiral Dance” by Starhawk. The first two are my favorites. You would love the Barbara Walker book! more later after I catch up on reading. Don’t be hard on yourself! hugs, Weesprite
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You’ve had a hell of a past two months. You need time to yourself, to relax or do whatever the heck you want to do. I don’t think it’s selfish of you to want this. It’s not merely a “want” anyway; it’s a NEED. And so what if it IS “selfish”? You have a Self! Your Self has some needs! Without your Self, what would you have? Don’t worry about what they say. You have a right to the few things…
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….in life that you ask for. We don’t have to be “all-giving, all-serving” just because we were born into this life as women. Your daughter, especially, should be more understanding. hugs, Weesprite
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We all need alone time. You have every right to feel the way you do.<p style ="background-image: url(http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v170/leonalia/10021190.jpg); background-repeat:no -repeat; background-attachment: scroll;width:103;height:83 “>
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If your daughter is a teenager she might try the “you never talk to me” thing, but that isn’t really valid. Everyone needs some down time. Be loving but firm.
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Wishing you a Happy New Year in Florida!
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How old is your daughter? Sometimes I feel the same way you do, but remember all the times my mom let me know that she wanted to be alone and it was sort of painful so I try not to do that to Jewel. Jewel how ever is only nine. I don’t know if there is ever a way to balance every thing. Blessings.
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